Tragedy at home
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From: Milltown, NJ
junk,
I'm sorry to say, I DO understand your loss. My son Paul (age 27) was also killed in a motor vehicle accident. It will be SIX very long years ago, this coming April 20th.
My only words to you are these...it WILL get better. You will not be able to grasp that right now, but it will. Do NOT let anyone tell you not to scream, cry, curse, blame yourself (believe me, you WILL) or let out the pressure in some other way. TALK, to anyone that is willing to listen to you. You will repeat the story about a ZILLION times until YOU get tired of telling it and you will.
You will find there are more people that have had this happen to them than you would think and as you relate your experience, others will reveal theirs. Misery does love company and it does help (in a warped way) to know you are NOT alone in this $#itty thing.
Turn to your family and friends.
If you want to contact me to talk, please feel free to send me a private message.
Ken Skalla
Milltown, NJ
I'm sorry to say, I DO understand your loss. My son Paul (age 27) was also killed in a motor vehicle accident. It will be SIX very long years ago, this coming April 20th.
My only words to you are these...it WILL get better. You will not be able to grasp that right now, but it will. Do NOT let anyone tell you not to scream, cry, curse, blame yourself (believe me, you WILL) or let out the pressure in some other way. TALK, to anyone that is willing to listen to you. You will repeat the story about a ZILLION times until YOU get tired of telling it and you will.
You will find there are more people that have had this happen to them than you would think and as you relate your experience, others will reveal theirs. Misery does love company and it does help (in a warped way) to know you are NOT alone in this $#itty thing.
Turn to your family and friends.
If you want to contact me to talk, please feel free to send me a private message.
Ken Skalla
Milltown, NJ
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From: Sweetwater Texas
I'm sorry to hear of your terrible loss, I know simple words from a stranger across the internet are basically worthless when it comes to making you feel better, but remain strong and cherish the memories.
May God bless you and your family.
May God bless you and your family.
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I, too, offer my sincere sympathy in your loss. I am sure it was a comfort to see the outpouring of friends and relatives who attended the memorial service. May God grant you comfort and peace during this difficult time, and you can always talk/vent to your friends here on this forum. I truly feel we are all family. God Bless You, and keep in touch with us.
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From: Vale, NC
Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. We are healing and with 4 othehr children to raise it is hard to slow down or wallow too long. Thought I'd post a pic so y'all would see what we are missing.
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From: Central PA
I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain. Our neighbors lost their daughter in a car accident a few years ago. Their family is a mess today. Please just remember that you all have to stick together in this tough time. Do what ever you have to do to get the help you need. Its ok to lean on family, friends, professionals, whoever!! Mt thoughts and prayers are with you today. God Bless.
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From: Grants Pass, Oregon
Its only a small consolation,but im glad too hear that all the other motorists werent more seriously injured in this tragedy!
It makes your own personal loss no less painful,but if your daughter was indeed a careful driver and a thoughtful person,im sure she would not have wanted to have caused suffering for other families.
It also says something about your character as a parent that you are willing to share the fact that your daughter did make an error,rather than trying to place blame upon others. It sounds like you have done your job as a parent well,and i hope you and your family can take some small comfort in the fact that you did your best,which is all any of us can do.........Please accept my sympathies and hopes for your family.
It makes your own personal loss no less painful,but if your daughter was indeed a careful driver and a thoughtful person,im sure she would not have wanted to have caused suffering for other families.
It also says something about your character as a parent that you are willing to share the fact that your daughter did make an error,rather than trying to place blame upon others. It sounds like you have done your job as a parent well,and i hope you and your family can take some small comfort in the fact that you did your best,which is all any of us can do.........Please accept my sympathies and hopes for your family.
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From: northwest,sc
I don't know of anything I can say to make things better.
About 10 years ago my neice was a senor in Hi. school, 17 y/o.
On her way home a larger car crossed the center line and struck her
head on. She was barley alive and airlifted to either Rockhill S.C. or
Charlotte N.C. She didn't last very long.
At the funiral one of the ER nurses told my sister everything that
could be done to save her had been done. This nurse had helped
work on her and was in tears as she talked to my sister.
I felt ashame of myself that I was glad it was my sisters daughter
and not mine.
It still tears at me to this day.
I told my sister about this, we huggd and cried and I had no words
that could comefort her.
I keep them in my prayers, and I still thank the Lord every day that
it wasn't one of my daughters, but the guilt feelng is still there.
I am sorry for your loss.
You and your daughter will be in my prayers also.
I only say this because if you have siblens and they have children
you may understand the way they feel.
About 10 years ago my neice was a senor in Hi. school, 17 y/o.
On her way home a larger car crossed the center line and struck her
head on. She was barley alive and airlifted to either Rockhill S.C. or
Charlotte N.C. She didn't last very long.
At the funiral one of the ER nurses told my sister everything that
could be done to save her had been done. This nurse had helped
work on her and was in tears as she talked to my sister.
I felt ashame of myself that I was glad it was my sisters daughter
and not mine.
It still tears at me to this day.
I told my sister about this, we huggd and cried and I had no words
that could comefort her.
I keep them in my prayers, and I still thank the Lord every day that
it wasn't one of my daughters, but the guilt feelng is still there.
I am sorry for your loss.
You and your daughter will be in my prayers also.
I only say this because if you have siblens and they have children
you may understand the way they feel.
