well,it is better than the one i was going to say that we said about steers and texas when i was in the army,but i am not trying to offend anybody,so i apologized,might have caught jimdandy in a bad mood.

 

I was married and divorced in Texas and the law in 01 was what was his before marriage was his and before we got married that was mine was mine. What was accumulated after marriage we were to split 50/50 or decide how we wanted it split. It was all amicable in that I didnt feel hustified asking for anything he had anyway as I have no right to it as it was just that HIS and the same went for his feeling about things I had prior to the nups. Who would be so crappy as to take something that belonged to their spouse before they got married anyway? that just seems rude, greedy and mean. But I am not like the venemous vixens out there who think they deserve everything just because.

 

you are not acting like a female!! lol

 

AHHHH exactly I am missing certain female genes. I just cant be a bit*h like that. Life is way too short. I am not into shopping unless its Bass Pro Shop (OMG something about the turkey call aisle) Tractor Supply or something along those lines. Def not your tyical female. Just one who misses her F350 and has love/hate issues with her ex (both the four wheel and the two footed one) We should all treat each other like we wanted to be treated. (wait, then there wouldnt be divorce) I read this post and felt bad. I mean seriously who would want to be that mean and nasty to take someone stuff that they were not a part of working for etc? Just do not understand.

 

yeah, but divorce attorneys dont seem to have a problem with it.

 

Hoosier baby r u married right now?.....heee heee heeee

 

Or a single twin sister that lives in the Great State of Texas? (preferable around Houston)

Chris

 

i just think you dont know the true meaning of the word "divorce" from the latin.. meaning to rip a mans 'manhood' out through his wallet.... at least thats how Robin Williams defines it.. most women would want to take every last cent they could even if only for spite.. .. when it came to my ex wife.. it was worth paying every cent to get rid of her... I wont have the same problem with the new wife.. she is great!

 

No I am single. No twin either. One of a kind. I am just me. I have had things taken from me that did not deserve to be and know what it feels like.So why put someone through that same feeling? If a couple gets divorced there dos not need to be nastiness. They need to find their happy place. Life is too short for bullsnot. If the time and energy people put in a divorce were put into their relationship they more than likely wouldnt need a divorce. did that make sense?

 

yeah but now he is gonna ask you out...

 

When I divorced the second time (omg yes married twice) I had to "buy" him out. In north Carolina you had to be seperated for one year before the divorce would be granted. Okay now if I do not wish to be married to a cheating snake why do I want to stay tied to him for a extra year? So I did what any wwoman would do after having her heart ripped out. I bought him out. I paid him to sign the waiver statement that we had lived apart. Black mail set in and he ended up furniture, bills of his paid, cash money (alot of it) etc. I was pissed off he was doing that but then had to remember he was not great husband during marriage why would he be during this moment in time? But it was worth it. I made sure he and his son were taken care of house furnished, rent paid, utilities paid, spending money and car paid off. I became free in a month instead of in 12. I can get more furniture, I can earn more money and isnce I dont like to argue or fight over anything and like having peace in my life it was so worth it. I was able to move ahead and get on with my life. Yes it was illegal but that one year law is the lamest ever. All I wanted to was to wake up without crap in my cornflakes. I wanted peace and quiet and my dignity. I paid for all that and learned a huge lesson ( reason I am still single) I am waiting for God to put me with who He says I am supposed to be with not who I think I should be with. I look at it this way if you reach down and pet a pit bull with your right hand and he gnaws it violently to the bone are you going to reach down and pet him with your left hand and see if he licks this time? hell no.

 

hey, hoosierbaby.....sounds to me like you and I have traveled the same lame road......

I wanted NOTHING that was his....but he sure wanted his hands on stuff that belonged to me......and....just to get rid of him I gave him the boat (mine), the truck (mine), the motorcycle (mine) and he took MY tools....emptied out my garage when I wasnt home......all was mine prior to our marriage.....bad thing is he took my credit with him....DANG!!

but it was dont without having to wait the seperation period out........

buy outs cost ya, but you can replace everything but your sanity!!

 

I question your "breakfast cereal marketing stretegy"...catchy tho...

 

quad I have always used that with my kids.
PO- Its tough but we all pay for sucky decisions we make. I never had a gun put to my head to marry either man and both were butt heads before I married them but being young and dumb I swore i could make things better. It doesnt get better. It plateaus or gets worse. I take responsibility for my choices and cannot whine about them. I stand up and say this is how it was and this is now how it is.
I think guys can be just as crappy during a divorce but from what I have seen women are evil. We are an awful species in soooo many ways. women think guys owe them for everything. We think on Valentines day they owe us, birthdays...they owe us, anniversaries they owe us. If we get mad at them they owe us, if they get mad at us they owe us its never ending. I kinda feel sorry for most men. I like being mellow and having little or no hassles. I do not ever ask for anything except for honesty and respect, faithfulness and I give the same. easy as that. Maybe the solution lies in men and even women being more picky about their relationship choices. and maybe they should wait longer before getting married or even just living together. Most toads show warts after a year so it may be worth the wait.

 

well, the man I am currently with loves me because I am NOT one of those women who feel he owes me ANYTHING....all I want from him is his respect, loyalty and honesty....I do not celebrate all the little frivolous dates they have out there to capitalize on the human emotion....

valentines day does not exist in my life.....once you get to a certain age, birthdays no longer count for much other than the fact you are still on the right side of the grass....dont by me anything, just tell me you love me and spend a bit of time with me and I will be soooooooo happy......money can by SO much, but money is the root of all evil.....

if I had money to give it would belong to someone else, as I only need what is necessary to pay my bills and afford the necessaties.....

Paul and I have a great relationship.....we both come from BAD relationships where we were both burned by greedy, dishonest and disrespectfule partners.....we are open, honest and respectful to one another and we dont do the materialistic aspects of a relationship that so many perceive as 'showing the love'....man.....give me a hug, kiss, and hold me in your arms while we sit and watch a movie....and you have me for life......give me diamonds and gold and leave me alone, well, let's just say you will be alone a lot longer than I would......

a lot of men out there complain about 'woman' collectively....so much so, that they dont see the real gems that are right in front of them.....

honesty, respect, and faithfulness.....that is ALL that should be pre-requisite in a relationship....