Well guys I just left my first real long term relationship. It lasted 2.5 years, and now I need to find a new hobby. I think one of the errr problems with our relationship is that we were together 24/7, which for one kept me away from alot of my friends and luckly they are accepting me back in haha, but the problem that i'm findin is I dont know that to do with my self now. I kinda feel like I'm pressing my self on people and possibly annoying them. escpecially female friends. I'm findin that I really miss the female companionship and because of that again I think I'm pressin my self on people. Anyone else ever have this problem? I'de love to take the time and work on my truck but the lack of funds and the lack of a warm dry place to work on it is limiting that untill the summer time. To top it all off I just got laid off from my full time job till atleast the first of the year, and thats if the weather breaks...

Both my ex and i learned alot about our selves and life in general during our relationship, because of that we both changed some. I'm finding that i dont really miss "her" from the past few months, but I miss "her" from when we ment and the first year and a half or so. anyone else understand this?

I think i'm just having a hard time comming to terms with being single and not always having someone there go see a movie, or go to a store with or what ever. I would assume this is probably normal for most people?

Thanks alot to all who have listened, just writing this seems to have helped.

 

Don't worry, your NORMAL! Completely understandable, happens to most people. Take the good things you've learned and put it into your next relationship. It's very easy to feel like a third wheel when you find yourself suddenly alone. Don't worry, your friends will let you know if you're becoming a pain. What did you do with yourself before? Do you have any hobbies that aren't expensive? Is there something you've always wanted to learn to do? Now would be a good time to take a class or join a gym (if you don't go already) or a sports team. (Something indoors I guess in your area). Or, do you have any neighbors or relatives that could use some help with something? Don't rush into anything because your lonely, that usually turns out bad. Sitting home all day will make you feel worse. Get out and do something, it will take your mind off it.

 

Dear Abby .........

 

haha thanks racerchick. i am slowly starting to get on my own feet and writing that thread helped alot. its amazing how when stuff does actually bother me, just being able to right it helps alot. i worked 50 to 60 hours a week on top of college and threw some decent bon fires before so i had a couple of small partys before the weather turned. now i just gotta find some cheap entertainmant for when i'm not at my part time job. It used to be taking random drives to explore new places but, needless to say, even with the car thats not cheap any more haha.

 

When you're young it is just a stepping stone of life.....

When you are over 50 and it happens ....it just makes your head spin.

Time heals all wounds !