Hey guys thanks for the support you have given me and the advice. I have another thing I need help with and that is, what questions do I ask her to get to know her better? If you could pm me some I would greatly appreciate that. I want to get to be more than friends. I am not looking for a home run either, I want to take this in baby steps.

 

Its not what question do i ask to get to know her. Just talk to her about any and every thing. Girls just like to be talk to and they like it when you listen. Talk aobut every day life "How her day is going" if she says bad ask her why. Don't try and get to know her really quickly it takes time.

 

Thanks I'll do that. I haven't talked to her in a couple days now, but I am planning on going to her house on Halloween.

 

lol what did you do, jump right on the couch with her and start watching movies and **** before even saying hello? Sounds like you two have had an interesting start, but a start nonetheless.

girls are interesting. There is no "right" question to ask to get to know her, but there are wrong ones. lol the only wrong question i can thihnk to ask is how much she weighs. i made that mistake once....ouchy.

Other than that, and i know this will be hard to understand really, but you really just have to play it by ear. try to get comfortable doing something together (my gf and i always like to lay down on a futon together and listen to music and share stories and whatnot, when we were first getting to know each other) because that will pave the way for the rest of the journey, always having some home base where youre both comfortable. You just have to start somewhere. Dont feel bad if youre shy, its all part of the process, and again, if youre somewhere you know youre safe, you wont be as shy. go get her!

 

Thanks a lot 5.0Torx, I usually feel comfortable when I am at her house for some reason, probably because she lives with her dad and her dad is usually sleeping since he works nights.

 

start from there. also, dont feel like you always have to be talking, because thats just not possible. put some chill music on and go to sleep with her! er....next to....

 

I think I can manage putting on some music. I am thinking about going over to her place tonight, but there is a little problem a couple of her friends are going to be there also. It doesn't bother me too much.

 

yeah dont only spend time with her if no one else is going to be around. There are many aspects to a persons life, and an intimate relationship is only one of them. besides, if she's cool, her friends probably are too. Get to know her friends, and dont always push to be alone. Ask her what she wants.

 

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Now today she tells me that we should get to know each other more before we move too far with it.

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I don't see anything wrong with this suggestion.

Too many relationships are based on "Infatuation" instead of people getting to know one another better before the line gets crossed.

I admire her for stating what should be done.

 

I have an update on the relationship status. We decided to go our seperate ways. I knew it was coming, but it still kind of made me feel like crap. We're still friends that will talk every now and then.

 

Sorry to hear that.

Steve

 

plenty of fish in the sea bro

 

Well to resurect my thread. I went to this gals house a week ago. She invited me over because she was bored and had nothing to do. So I decided to go and brought my Cars movie as she has never seen it. We watched that some TV and Shrek 2. Then she was showing me pictures off of facebook. We chatted for a while. We were laying on the floor. Then we just ended up laughing about nothing to about 5 in the morning. It was around this time she stole my keys for my truck, I knew right there that I wasn't going to be leaving soon. We were talking then she said that I fell asleep and was snoring.

All I know is that I planned on going over as a friend. But that plan was shot down when we started making out.

 

Forget what I posted, I took things a little too serious and pressured her into going out with me. So right now she isn't talking to me. I am thinking that I am not ready for a relationship, she said the same to me and obviously I should have listened more carefully on the phone.

 

Sounds like it is HER that isn't ready for a relationship.