If you get booted over this, I'll be right behind.

But Ken is not a heartless man, nor Peg unfeeling either. You know us, even though we have never met

WE TAKE CARE OF OUR OWN

 

I will make it a sticky now for a bit. Still thinking about you guys Carl. Take care.

-Matt

 

thak you very much beast12. from what i've read here and other places, alot more people than i could have imagined know the value of these resources. i wish i'd known sooner

 

Carl,

The question I have is, what can we do, physically, as a group to help? Is your family in need of anything?

 

When my father was dying, he went into hospice 3 days prior to his death (cancer). He could barely speak (throat cancer). An old black man wheeled him, telling him "don't worry man, I'm looking after ya". He later gave my father his last shave, a dignity and comfort my father had not been able to give himself. My father smiled through the event.

My father, a devote Russian Orthodox, had told his priest that his greatest fear was dying alone. He died in a packed room, surrounded by his 4 children and his friends. I was the last person he saw, that morning he opened his eyes briefly before passing out after I told him I was there and he wasn't alone. I've got to go, I'm in tears.....

 

ken & all, just asking that question is a huge help emotionally. i've gotten pm's from several members with phone #'s, and it's always "call 24/7". that alone is more than i would have expected from people going through thier own adversities or just to a stanger that always seems to be posting bummer things. i just don't have the ability to make those calls witout breaking down yet. nothing personal. i can't talk to my family on the phone w/out losing it.
a heads up though for everyone.. protect your assets. we didn't, thinking we were both tougher than woodpecker lips, and got wiped out financially by this fiasco. ira's gone, savings gone, bills up the butt.. because we didn't think our insurance co would abandon us, when we needed 'em most. well, as Red Forman (that '70's show) says.. "dumb ***". as i asked in post 1, if you have the ability to spare a couple $$ for your local hospice, that would be a fitting tribute to Nan. do it in a loved ones name like nh-hottie and others.
the kind words and prayers are more than i could have asked for in this time. to those that have pm'd, i don't get back as fast as i should 'cause the pm's get to me. in a good way, but still it's emotional. to those that post in the open forum you all have a special place in the here after. you've given lots of comfort when i can't sleep and need respite from sitting on the bed just watching her breathe. even with her diminishing memory, she tells me go chk out "your truck place". i tell her what i read here. she knows it helps. that helps her too as she senses i'm taking this poorly. God bless you all. you all have helped me help her. for that i'm eternally greatfull. i hope some day to sit down at a gathering with those of you that are close to me, geographicly and tip a few. i'll be able to tell you what the support you all provided meant to both of us.
carl

 

I couldn't possibly think of a reason you could get booted for this series of posts........

 

well i was going to say thanks after every post to keep it on the 1st pg, but i think it'll get the attn it deserves now. when i posted that , i was alot pissy. i've got to chill before i type.

 

Our prayers are with ya. Keep the faith.

 

ken the story af your dads passing about dehydrated me(of tears). damn i wish i had good things to post, but when i chk in it's one touching story or another, that i appreciate btw. i'm so glad you had the opportunity to be with him when he passed. as for the guy that shaved him.... well that's why i believe in God. there has to be a reason for that much caring in 1 person. the other post in club fte be damned. this is my belief. thanks for sharing your dads story w/ me Ken.
carl

 

The love of God allowed me that one last precious look into my father's eyes. He died a year ago January 27th. I'll see him again one day, along with all those who set the path before me, just as I am walking the path for my children.

Nothing wrong with a good hard cry, maybe even share one with your wife. To me, there is nothing more tender and closer to my soul. Just a guess, and I mean this in all kindness, but perhaps she needs it as much as you do?

I'm glad my father's story touched you... I believe that's what walking the path on this earth is about... sharing our inner gold with one another.

 

ken she & i had those cries for this whole ordeal. now that it's full blown back in her brain, she's back to last yr. in her mind. i thank God for that. she just thinks shes tired.. now it's just me crying, as she sleeps. but i know it's good for me. thanks again.
carl

 

This is new to me. I'm trying to introduce myself as a new user but I don't know where to start. Can you help me? Thanks.

 

at the top of the user announcement page, click new topic and have at it. welcome to you

 

This is my 1st time here today Guys and Gals an I want to tell you these posts have really touched me heart..God surely led me to this site and to see all the caring supporters in here..We will add you and yours Carl to our prayer lists and pray the maybe God will spare and heal your spouse..We dont have the answers why God takes our loved ones..But we do know HE KNOWS BEST and we are not supposed to wonder ehy!! We just lost our 43yr old youngest Daughter 7 months ago..And if we hadnt of known that she Repented and got Born Again and got her life right with God I dont think my wife or I could have made it thru all of it..We are just thankful so very Thankful that we know where she is now and in a much better place forever..Its where we all are striving to get to ..GOD BLESS YOU'ALL
HARP AND HOPE