Thanks for the input guys and gals..I'm not very experienced in the field, and she's definitely hard for me to read and understand at times. Talked to her last week and she told me she does likes me etc. Been talkin with her online and on the phone a little bit as well. She just likes doing her own thing I guess. My probelm is I look too far into things and think for the worst. I've always been like that. Very pessimistic, but I've been doing great with this girl thus far. Haven't seen her in two weeks, and it's starting to get to me!! But I don't wanna be stupid and give up because that's what im notorious for with females. She came to ME essentially, she asked ME out, so I don't want to throw in the towel yet. Seems she always has something else to do, but I can't call it quits. I've been doing that with women my whole life. I give up the second I see them even talking to another guy. But now I think I still have a fighting chance. I mean, what the hell...I can have a Super Duty, so why can't I have this girl?!

 

I had the same problem with a long distence relationship I tdorve me nuts and she didnt work at it to hard but now she is just messing with me so i really cant tell what normal relationships are like. And i seem to be the minority. But it seemed liuke you discribed my situation perfectly. haha

 

Been there, done that. It's just too hard. My first relationship was with a girl who had to move clear to the other side of the country. I think I could have married her someday had the distance not screwed things up. I had my heart broken so bad the first time I wondered if it was a fluke, but after the second one (with a girl who was a lil closer to me) didn't work out either, I gave up on the idea altogether. Which sucks since I can never seem to meet local girls...

 

My wife and I spent 13 months 3000 miles apart! We stayed commited to eachother and kept God in our relationship. That is how we survived so I would say yes, they can work if you are both truely commited to eachother....

 

Long distance relationships work fine if you with the right person. I'm in a long distance relationship right now and its working out fine for me. Just have to be comitted to the person your with and your relationship. And I know most of you are probably like "She's only 13 and doesnt know anything *blah blah blah*..." but I do, really. Seen a lot of great relationships like my parents and some that didnt work. I know my far share on this subject. My cousin had a relationship with her hubby before they were married for 2 years while he was on his mission for there church and did i mention they're married? lol. That seemed to work out alright.
Good Luck to ya!
Jenny

 

Hunni you may think you know a lot about relationships being 13 but trust me, there's a lot more to it than ya think. Why are you in a relationship anyways?.

 

Yeah sorry for not posting in awhile. But about amonth ago I called her and talked to her. She wants nothing to do with me. Kept blowing me off and throwing excuses at me about me seeing her. Just a bunch of bs. I finally got sick of the lies and faced the inevitable. I knew it wasn't gonna work from the start because she was so damned wishy washy..always blowing me off and refusing to talk on the phone and always signing offline on me during a conversation. Plus, she's one of those girls where all guys are "hunny, babe, and cutie." I told her how it was though. Ha, thanks for wasting my time. I honestly think she was just playing with my head or using me, knowing she was going back to the Cape and then to a different school where she'd never have to see me again. Haven't talked to the immature loser since. Until another opportunity presents itself right in front of me (if that ever happens), I'm not gonna waste my time pursuing females. Especially ones that would rather date a new guy every week. Put in everything and get absolutely nothing. Maybe I should've thanked her for saving me so much diesel fuel by not visiting her this summer. As far as I'm concerned, she loses out.

 

Probably why she's got no time for you

 

Hahaha you're probably right!!

 

How's this for one working out. I met a girl online about six months ago. At the time she lived 2 hour away. Well we broke up for a little over a month and are now back together (long story). I ran into some rough times, currently unemployed and really not sure what to do... Her parents have given me a place to stay, and she's right here too.. I couldn't ask for more. We're getting married in the future, we haven't set a date yet as her sister is getting married in two years. We've know eachother for six months, but we feel like we've known eachother for a lot longer. It's a great relationship too. It's all about the effort. If you give 110% and she gives 5% then it will never work. You BOTH had to be committed.

 

Sometimes things work, sometimes they don't I guess. Didn't phase me really. I was like "yeah ok". Just wish there weren't so many immatures girls out there who'd rather go from guy to guy rather than stick with one.

 

Haha yeah thats a good way to look at it. Sorry she turned out to be a loser.

You can make long distance work, you just have to really know the person you are with before they go away. My freshman year in college i started dating this guy from texas and i'm in michigan. I flew down there right before our next term was going to start just so i could drive back with him to keep him company. He cheated on me 2 days before he came to pick me up from the airport. At least thats the only incident i know of. Sometimes it just isn't meant to be....

 

why noy be in a relationship??

 

Yeah... no offense to the girls here, but lots of em take whatever oppurtunity to screw with your head. (Guys do it too, admit it) Gotta take it, learn from it, TRY to avoid it again, don't let it get ya too down... And if ya see a girl that isn't all guy to guy, try and get to know her. No harm in that. Ya gotta get hurt to know how good it feels to have somebody who's committed

Of course, there's also the approch "I never knew what true happiness was, then I got married and I know I'll never get to be turly happy again."

Do be glad you saved that fuel though, 3.10 here today. Man. The crap we americans have to deal with