then DO NOT give her money. If you do indeed loan her money, draw up a contract...

yea it sucks, but you cannot help people who dont want to help themselves

 

Children are NOT supposed to take care of their parents....parents are supposed to take care of their children.....and that my friend is biblical, but I don't want to go there.
They, the parents are here on this earth before you and they should have gotten it together long ago. I would not give either of them ANYTHING because you have to watch out for yourself at this point. Focus on your future....not your mothers or anyone else.
If you are financially well off then that's another matter but I assuming that's not the case.
Don't chase BAD money with GOOD money.
Your mother with take care of herself when SHE'S ready and not until then.
Merry christmas

 

I'm liking that post... a lot. I'm also angry that this situation can happen to a kid- but it happens a lot more than we'd like to believe. Just ask my wife- she sees it every day in HS. From a practical standpoint:

1) If mom's an alchoholic, loaning her money isn't going to help matters, and could well make them worse. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do except distance yourself from the situation until it improves- dramatically. Like was posted already, you need to focus on your own future.

2) If the house did do back to the bank, have you explored options on where to house the animals? It normally takes a bank six months to a year after they start foreclosure proceedings to actually take possession- so you've got some time to plan. Is there a local FFA Chapter at your school? Get to know the teacher/advisor, they can be a resource to safely house your animals.

3) Your HS councelor should be a good resource for advice and avenues open to you. This includes you age status- if you're within 6 months of your 18th birthday, most states have a "window" that allow adult status. This is important- if you have to make adult decisions, you need the same rights and protections afforded other adults.

4) A Minister or Pastor could be a great help- if only as a sounding board. It sounds like you live in a smaller town- this is actually a big plus. There's a sense of community to draw on that you don't have in a large city.

5) I know this just won't sound right now, but I strongly suspect you'll get through this and be a stronger, better person for it. There are adults out there close to you that would love to help- I'm sure of it. Ask- and don't forget to return the favor in years to come.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Feel free to pm me if you have questions for Mrs. Bear- she deals with situations like this all the time.

 

This is an important offer Dustin. Could put you on a path that could change your life.

You never know when a chance meeting, conversation, or event will have a major impact on your life...especially during a time of need.

You have to start somewhere.

BTW: It can be a Merry Christmas for you will it to be. Even if your current troubles take a turn for the worse and seem to have no good end...look at what you have gained here. You can not buy the heart felt good wishes you have already gained here...I think many of us will be thinking of you throughout this holiday season.

 

Dustin, I just realized that you are in Texas.

I would be interested to know where if you don't mind?

P.M. me if wish to keep your location private.

 

DISASSOCIATE- QUICKLY!

I have said it many times before, it was the only thing that saved ME.

YOU BE YOU.

Get out of there fast, and make your own life happen, and for kripes sake don't be suckered into bailing out those who failed you.

GET OUT!!!

If your gramma can keep you for a while, that's good on her.

If you look back on it, it will drag you down.

GET OUT FROM UNDER!

I did it, I had to.

If you want to live your own life your chance is now. Make the most of it, brother!

HAUL *** and make a life for yourself

I DID

UNDERSTAND THIS IN BLACK AND WHITE: What they did to get them where they are has nothing to do with you and your future. You are a new person, and have a future of your own. You need to make the best of it. You have a right to do that. You don't "OWE" them jack squat.

Feel free to resent them, come to think of it....

But the rest of your life is up to you.

~Wolf
Son of disfunctional parents

Never look back - it will only suck you in. I KNOW!!!

PSONEDIT: It's okay for males to cry. I needed to remind myself of that just now.

RUN DAMNIT! Get out of there....

 

DUSTIN -

WHERE are you?

We know it is Tejas - but where?

 

TEXANS -

There is a young man out there who is true and blue.

FIND HIM!

 

Dustin lives in Lampasas. Anybody close to him? I believe I remember him saying he went to school in Waco. I think we need to find him a friend.

 

"there are things in this life you can control and there are things you can't. Deal with the ones YOU can control and forget the ones you can't control. Otherwise, you are going to beat yourself to death with someone elses problems. Good luck and God bless."
I know with family going down this way you feel like you can save them if you just do the right thing - tell them the right way -"help" them out of the fires they start. But I've lived long enough to know if someone is dead set determined to burn thier life to the ground there's not a thing you can do to stop them.None of what's happened is your fault and there is nothing you could have done to prevent it. God bless and keep you ,boy...you've had a hard road. Take yardbird's advice if you can keep up on the payments yourself if not keep what you got and let it go. It's time you worry about yourself - If your mother was in her right mind and had a bird's eye view of what she's putting you through she would tell you the same thing.

 

I had a similair situation when I was a kid, my mother would drink and pop pills. Then kick me out. My Step-dad, who was really great, tried to control the situation, but couldn't. One of the first things you need to do is go to a guidence consular at school. Be careful who you pick, I went to a different one, than the one assigned to me, and told her my situation. When my mother kicked me out for good she called the school and told them I was no longer living at home which meant I couldn't go to high school any longer. The consular took her dear sweet time processing the paper work, which bought me enough time to get my Diploma, not a GED. I worked 40 hours a week in Restuarant, which kept me feed, shared apt. rent with a friend of my step-dads. The word went out about my ordeal and I ended up with more friends than I could count. P.S. my mother still gives me trouble to this day, I have as little to do with her as possible. She tells all kinds of weird stories about me to anyone who will listen, can't believe the people who know me and buy her line of crap.

 

dustin, I can only assume that you are around 18, I feel for you and i wish the best for you. I am 21 i could tell you about stuff i went through but that wont help you. I know that you are looking at two roads right now and it is scary as hell, but you gotta pick one. either drop everything and everybody and go make yourself a new life and just say to hell with the rest of you.
or you can step up and lay down the law, if your mom doesnt listen about her boyfriend then tell him in a way that he will understand that if he doesnt change things your foot will.
basically you should either get outta dodge or turn into the new lawman in town.

 

I'm in no position to give you advice, but it looks like some others here have some good things to say. Just wanted to say good luck and let us know how it goes.

 

looks like Dustins last post was 5 days ago

 

Im about 80 miles from Lampasas, in Stephenville going to college out here. If your ever in the area gimme a shout or PM me before you come so I can look out for ya.