I have really been going through a tough year it it just seems to get worse.
The post below was just a temporary relief. But a good one
I have problems at work(trash talk rant) problems at home -even worse
. I have no one to talk to, go to the movies with, and hang out. MAN I MISS THAT. I keep trying to do good for other but get brought down and aaawwwgggg.
Last night This girl called me drunk as hell. I don't even know her but, got her from a party brought her to one of my "safe" houses and she called me this morning to bring her home. Your not going to tell my parents are you. Me: no you did a responsible thing by calling me. Brought her to her truck and gety a NASTy call from daddy. I told him it is parents like you that drive good kids to drink and drive so they don't have to call you for a ride. AND GET BITCHED AT FOR DOING SO. Never even got a thank you.HEY MAN I SAVED you daughters life. Worthless loser
It is getting worse I have no release. I used to get massauges from my girlfriend(at the time) They were awsome, a great releaver. She could take me from wanting to beat the crap out of something/someone to total carefreeness. SHE was that good I mean a messauge completely turning me around. I DON"T HAVE THAT NOW!

 

Go blow stuff up with firecrackers. Nah man, you gotta find someone to talk to about all this. Does your school have a counselor?

 

ever seen auquamassage?

as far as the dad who called, first i woulda said STFU then I woulda asked for the addy to send flowers to when he kills his daughter by not beingthere for her.

 

Ya, I think so but I think that they are female and I have ZERO trust with them right now Been screwed over by like 4+. My boss, co-worker own MOTHER( TRASH TALK BEHIND BACK) mY eX GIRLFRIEND WHO CHEATED on me just to see if she could get away with it it decribed each and every detail over the phone on what they did and were planning to do, know fills my ans machine with please please take me back. no offence to anyone but a females trust is like tryng to keep water in a strainner.- Their will be nothing left when you REALLY need it.
Dustin
But I will not turn gay because of this. I just find guys easier to trust never had one wrong me like above. or his nose/ legs would be broken. I will continue to help anyone that needs me for anything until I go insane/snap

 

Dustin - -

First, thank you for taking care of the young girl. You should be proud of yourself. Well done!

Second. . . parents don't like to hear or believe that THEIR kids 'do wrong.' It is just fact. For the most part, parents will lash out at who/whomever is 'close' to their child.
Stand fast in your knowledge that you have done NOTHING wrong.

Third and lastly. . . .
Stress relief is going to be different for each individual. For me, either a massage (which, BTW rates at the top!), or, taking a couple of rifles down to the range for some one-on-one time with a target or two, will release a LOT of stress and tension.
I will concentrate on the target, the trigger, the wind. . . everything EXCEPT the world 15 feet behind my back.
Concentration on something that you enjoy is the way to release stress and relax.

Take care.

Keith

 

Ever do a demolition derby? Talk about stress relief! I'll admit that the stress level is high when you drive the car into the arena, but after a few crashes the relief starts. Kind of sad beating up a car that did nothing to you, but the cars I have smashed were happy to give their lives to help me out. (at least I think that's what they said)

 

Hey Jim,
Your right about the demo's it's great but getting hard to find good big junkers around here.
I don't have as many ways to release as a use to. I did the target thing like Dustin too
but my current wife doesn't like guns.
I find relief in simple things like cutting the grass on my tractor with a set of headphones on or chopping would. Nothing like taking out your emotions on a poor helpless log.
Finally, and I am a recovering alcoholic so going to meetings helps along with talking to my sponsor.
I hope you find something that works for you and quickly, stress is not good for anyone.
Dave
PS Good Guys finish Last but rest assured you did do the right thing. Too many people don't these days.

 

It's just a little twisted blaming her dad for being upset is'int it? Is she 21? If not she's guilty of underaged drinking. Anyone serving her at that party is guilty of contributing to her delinquency. So are you, indirectly by trying to help her hide it from her parents.
It's called being sneaky - and it's not a character trait which is going to endear them to you. For one you say you don't even know this girl - if that's the case then her father dosent know you from Adam, and is probably wondering what your doing with his kid....but that's not his business - you kids got it all figured out right?

But me thinks theres a bit more going on here than your letting on - how did this girl get your number if she dosent even know you? Moreover, how did her FATHER get your friggen number?

God help any punk whos got my drunk daughter and tells me STFU over the phone.....lol - BIG FRIGGEN MISTAKE PAL.

So this girl - whether 21 or not, is at a party getting drunk. Dosent have enough maturity or responsibility to know when shes had enough huh? Like you, has all the answers and knows better than her parents. And now dad's a big meanie because he loses his temper when he finds out his daughter is drunk and shes with a guy he dosent know? Oops that's right, he's supposed to drive her to and from the party.
She's responsible enough to drink - she ought to be responsible enough to control it.
If not - than he's responsible for her decision to drink and drive? Me thinks not.

Is she responsible enough to have safe sex? Or is dad supposed to bring her boyfriend the contraceptives too? I mean when is she responsible for her own actions?

Well, since dad's got it all wrong, and since you feel this chick is being treated unfairly, perhaps she should go live with you? Just remember - if she's willing to lie to dear old dad - you ain't got a prayer of having her being truthful with you.

I can relate with going through a rough week, and I know you meant well in this situation, but your attitude regarding her father's anger is not one of those things which you can consider yourself clearly right about. When a father raises his daughter for 18 years - there is no other man who comes first. You do not supersede his position with all he's invested just because his drunk daughter tells you your hot.
Only when the vows have been said and the commitment made, does dad graciously start playing second fiddle - as it should be in that case. IMO anyway.This may sound like it's over-controlling to you, but trust me, one day when you do tie the knot with a good chick, you will be glad it was her father who, in the meantime, preserved her that way for the day a good guy like you came along. Every father want's for his daughter to be happily married to a good guy with a strong character above all else. Just as most mothers want grandchildren.

 

73,
I drove her so she would not drive herself You sound like the dad. She would have surely wrecked. With no compassion from the parents. I have no Idea how she got my number, I'm guessing a friend of a freind of someone at the party. You sound old. Saying that if she was responsible enought to drink she was responible enough to call me-things do happen you know that I can't control but I help so I don't have to go to funerals of younger kids because dads like you "let them hear when they get home" Oh and She was passed out so she wasn't hitting on me
Your name ain't Jim is it

 

well said.

 

Do something like swimming exervise is good for the soul and calms stress.

Yesterday Michelle got me a palm button for the desk .

When I hit the button with the palm of my hand it says: "That was easy !"

Actually there are many things that can relieve stress.

First off... Get your mind of these situations that involve these girls.

It's Time to Evolve

I have friend who thinks he can save everyone.

Guess what ? He can't ,but he sure puts himself into situations that are really stressful

 

Dustin - -

I cannot (completely) disagree with what sinister73 has said. He makes a LOT of sense.
After reading your first post again, yes, you did the right thing by helping the girl, but, you (in my opinion) shouldn't have taken her to a 'safe house' - you should have taken her home and explained your actions to her father.

As for 'sounding old'. . . . I am. I am 51+ yrs old with four kids. I am NOT speaking for sinister73 when I say this, but, I am speaking in general for all parents:
"Just remember - - the older YOU get, the SMARTER your parents and older people in general, will get."
(Us 'older people' don't know everything, but, we have been around longer, to learn a few more things than the younger people THINK that they know.)

In closing, I will say this. . . . IF a guy (stranger) brings my under 21 yr. old daughter home, drunk, he had BETTER have a REAL GOOD explaination as to why he has her in THAT condition, or, I'm calling the cops. Real quick.

As it has been said before, "Discretion is the better part of valor."

I hope this upcoming week is better than the one you just experienced.

Keith

 

And again so I did not get shot , hit or cops called is why I did not bring her straight home. daddy probly has a closet FULL of guns We live in Texas ya know the gun to person ratio is like 7:1

 

Dustin, I'd probably stay as far away from that girl and her dad as possible. They both might have problems, who knows, maybe he beats her, maybe he doesn't have a relationship with her where she can tell him shes gonna get drunk with her freinds.

 

"Myagi say - take care of self first, else can help no one"