well i've got some junk goin on-

what's yalls worst problem that's ever happened w/ this?

 

You name it...lack of commitment, too much commitment. Two-timin', three-timin', who's-countin'? Money, relocation, education. Different needs, excess baggage, attempts to change, lack of transformation. General stress, rejected by pets...you get the idea.

Then, in my second relationship....

Sorry you've got 'stuff' going on...I hope things work out for you without a lot of heartache.

 

lol-

i think we all have had a little bit of....all of that. :-/

 

When I was 17 me and my girlfriend broke up because I found out she was sleeping with our high school english teacher..

 

Worst to date is my last one. It cost me nearly everything that I ever worked for. I was with her up until last year, 5 very expensive years not jsut financially either. TO make a long story short her son was a serial child molester, sexual predator,tried killing children and that's only the stuff that I know of. WHen I met her she gave me this line of my poor daughter was molested by my ex- husband . When In fact it was never proven that he did anything , but she failed to mention that her son had been caught many many times for molesting , sexual crimes, and had been in an institution several times. She also failed to mention that she, her son, and her daughter had charged 6 boyfriends in her past with molesting her kids. Put them through court when things did not go as they wanted. Well I had noticed things that I thought were a bit strange but, it wasn't until I and someone else caught her son molesting a little boy that everything hit the fan. As, I made sure charges were filed against my step son, because he was still a minor they choose to make him go through therapy at $165 an hour couple times a week for 2 years, then a clinic (minors private prison) out of state to the tune of a new corvette price tag. ANd let me say I would not have complained about the costs if there would have been a cure and never a victim again. But, It was through this therapy that I discovered that This game that they played several times on all these other guys and that her son who was protrayed as little innocent had done so many crimes and very sick crimes and of course none of these guys had done anything ever. Her sons Included Molesting everyone of his cousins, about a dozen other children and wanting to kill alittle girl. I had learned that about everything anyone of them had ever told me was a lie and I lived with the true criminals. To make a conclusion to part of this story , I got the hell away from them and never want to see them again, and I am very lucky as they probably would have played this accuse game on me had I not found out about it first. I can only say that I could have bought a fleet of new corvettes for what they swindled out of me, because daily there was always something. I can also say that I spent 2 years of the last 5 years never sleeping at night because I was sick to my stomach over everything I heard in therapy. I guess if there is a reason for this story is --until her son was actaully caught by me and another individual, my spouse and I got along great and I thought she was the greatest person in the world. I never ever knew that she was nothing more than a con woman. A person that is good at lying can cost others everything, before you get involved with anyone make sure you check out their past via a private investgator. Situations like these don't always happen to lower class, criminal or naiive people. My ex swindled the court systems many many times as well as child services- not to mention these poor men. Which I would say when the bucks ended - the trouble for them began. I have hired someone to update where she lives so that I never run into her again for my safety and the safety of my extended family ( she also tried to kill my 65 year old mom), and in the past year she has been in jail over 6 times , currently has 2 felony warrants for fraud, and numerous other charges that she is wanted for. Her nice son is out of jail and they wiped his record clean so no one knows he has done all of this . The sad part is both of these individuals are out there dating again playing their scam on someone else, I am sure with a sad story of poor me and my innocent children. I only hope to god that none of you ever experience anything like I have. Believe me this is a very condensed verison.

 

And I thought I had bad ex's. I've been very lucky!

 

Ghostgunn, I'm surprised you got out of that one without a a felony of some kind.

I dated my own SBFH when I was in college. First couple months she was a normal person, just reeling me in. Then she claimed she was being "stalked" by an ex boyfriend who was abusive during their relation. Then she claimed she was "attacked" one evening and so on. The only thing that "saved" me was she was caught on a security camara doing the dirty in the front seat of a car in a parking lot. Buddy of mine showed me the tape (copies had been going around like the Paris Hilton tape) and I walked away from her - should have run. I never told her I had seen the tape and just broke of the relationship, telling her I wasn't happy and had enough drama. She cried about how she couldn't live without me, told me she was pregnant, threatened to kill herself and so on. When all of that failed she became vindictive and attempted to file rape and assault charges. I got called in, took a polygraph and then me and the investigating officer watched the police copy of her now famous tape. The cop then told me they had investigated her charge and found out she had filed rape charges against 4 other men she had relations with in the college town she transferred from, not one had stuck and she was pretty much told to not show her face again unless she wanted to be charged with making false statements/charges. In the mean time she found another sucker, told him I was stalking her and tried to get me "taken out". He went to the police to see why they wheren't putting me in jail (her excuse was that I had connections and was beating the charge). He was told her history and advised to run from her too, I later ran into him and we compared stories and was amazed at how similar the "relationship" patterns where. She later hooked up with a (married) college professor and made his life a living ****.

Last I had heard she botched a staged suicide and nearly killed herself (trying to convince another guy to stay). That one got her locked up in the looney bin for 6 months.

 

dude! ...i thought i had it bad...

atleast those times are over though- or so it seems *end of the horror movie*

 

Sorry guys. You get the trophies. I have had problems but not like that. I hope the road gets a little smoother.

 

I've had some pretty serious problems, too, but yours make mine look like a day at six flags!

 

I would like to see Antigrav tell his/her story.
How did you get people to spill their guts yet you didn't say a thing about your own

 

Wow you guys have been through the worst of it. Atleast it can get better.
For me out of hte last 6 girlfriends. 2 have cheated on me 2 have randomly gone pyscho and one that just got messed up thanks to the one before her.

 

Wow, i guess I need to look out down the road. I'm happily dating the current girlfriend for the past year, had one complete ***** a few years ago, not going there bc it compares nothing to what some of the others have been through. I'm glad ya'll found out when you did and didn't get in any law trouble over all that crap.

 

Dated a girl in HS, went to college, it was all good, found out she was banging a 32 y/o south african on a work visa, well expired. Got really drunk one night going to college night at the local tavern, messed him up, pee'd on her car, got him deported, and got all the charges dropped. Not proud of it, but it is a skeleton in the closet.

 

Don't be so hard on yourself - it's nice to hear a story like that! It's not everyday that you hear of people getting their just dues which they've got coming to them. Men simply aren't allowed to be men anymore. We're allowed
to be adulterers, cheats, fornicators, manipulators and instigators. Defending ones own honor and pride is frowned upon in our society.

It's gotten so bad that authorities in some juristictions are even questioning a mans right to defend his own home and property. The right to resist unlawful arrest has gone out the window long ago - with the exceptions of the states of Michigan, Missouri, and I think Oklahoma.

Laws are slanted too far in favor of the fairer sex IMO. As a man the worst crimes you can ever be accused of are molestation and rape. The mere accusation of either practically makes you guilty in the public eye and can ruin your life. And with so much emphasis on DNA evidence these days, any manipulative woman who is able to turn on the tears when needed, can accuse you of rape and get a police forensics lab to test for your DNA - if you've had sex with her - your goose is practically cooked.

Molestation requires even less evidence to bag you - any child when properly manipulated can be coaxed into saying an unreal amount of untrue things due to thier active imaginations. Far and few are the jurors who will take the word of the accused over that of a seemingly innocent child who claims to have been abused.

Both of these are truely ugly crimes. The problem is that it's too easy to bring false charges with both of these crimes - and not even murder creates the dogma associated with being wrongly accused of either.

The fairer sex can be far more sinister than we can. If a man cheats, it's usually for some action on the side. I'm NOT condoning this. But it is true.
Rare is the guy who will lose all interest in his home and family over a
hoochie he tags every once in awhile. Most guys who cheat eventually get caught anyway - most men seem to not be very good at it.

A woman by contrast is capable of living two lives with ease. Many will the men go to their deathbeds never knowing of their wives infidelity. If a woman is discovered, it's not uncommon to find her cheating has been going on for years already. Reality suddenly comes grinding in and you think "Wow! - That's where she's been all those times!."

In the meantime she will come home, go out, make dinner, spend time with the kids, chastise you for watching too much football, chastise you for not spending enough time with the kids, complain you work too much, complain you spend too much on your truck, deprive you of sex for having a difference of opinion in all this, etc - ALL the things which come natural to a woman. You think everythings going good since this crap is what marriage is all about anyway. Amazing the nerve of a woman who has a long term affair going on, and yet can find fault with everything you do on what's supposed to be your own time.

And God forbid her lover hits the lottery - you'll find out then what's been going on for the last 6 years! (provided she means anything more to him than hoochie). Guys who like messing with married women need a good whipping.
Alot of these guys are only interested so long as the woman is still happily married. They get off on making a cuck out of the unknowing hubby. The minute a woman leaves her husband a guy like this usually loses all interest.

Of course the law dos'ent address this at all and both the wife and the other guy are considered to be well within their rights. Most times a husband is not even allowed to make a case of adultery against the wife during alimony or child custody hearings.

Thankfully not all women are habitual cheaters - and even fewer are sick enough to make false accusations. All the same it can be tough being a
man in the wrong place at the wrong time AND especially - with the wrong person!