greetings

any one else perpetually single, meaning year after year, not just a few months?

I have my own opinions, but feedback is interesting. By choice, circumstances, and how does that shape us?

 

With me, in my 20's, it wasn't by choice.I just figured women would like a guy who is polite,caring,respectful of their feelings,has a shower everyday,brushes his teeth,didn't smoke,loved to dance/sing, & had good self-esteem.
It appears I was quite wrong. The women in their late 30's early 40's are attracted to guy like that.
Now of course after years of surveys being done,the best hookup is a 25 year old men with 35-40 year old women (ie: Kutcher & Demi Moore).

Apparently Females between 18-28 like dating guys that "have a dangerous side"
after they turn 30 they re-examine themselves and find out they want someone to commit....only to find out there are only mainly divorced men & men that have never been married out there. When they find the single men,they say to themselves"Now why do you suppose he is single at 35 ?" not figuring they may not have been dangerous in their 20's. When they find divorced men,they think now ,what is wrong with this guy that is divorced at 35 .

With me, from the time I was 18, I worked fulltime in a job that claimed lots of hours a day from me, having a social life was near impossible. I still don't know how I did it .

Between 22 & 33 ,I had been close to being married 4 times.

I met Michelle when I was 42 and haven't looked back......(well as far as my eyesite will let me)

 

I feel you. 21 and kind of ashamed to say never been on a date. Never had much self esteem so I never asked anyone, although not much to choose from where my hometown is. Been in college sicne the second summer semester of 02 and never asked a girl out. But this last semester has really changed me. I have a much easier time talking to women. I'm starting a job that should earn me some good money so that should further help out.

i was about to ask this girl out before this last semester ended but I let my shyness get the best of me. I waited till the last day, finals, and I was going to wait till she left then turn my test in and follow her out and start a conversation. I kept looking at the people turning their tests in and never saw her so when I finished my test I looked to where she sat, kinda behind me, and she was gone. Still kicking myself.

And I agree about the younger women wanting to party and be treated unlike what I would treat one.

 

My girl friend broke up with me before X-mas which wasnt the best timing but crap happens. We where together for a little less than a year. She broke it up because she said we where not going anywhere and then she desided to date some guy I reall dont care for. I am trying a online dating site to see if I get lucky. I look at it like this it is her lost I know im not the nicest looking guy but women love my personality and I know I will find the right one.

 

Haven't been on too many dates since I got serious about college (my money was going into dropping classes) and I work offshore now after owning I restaurant that I didn't care for after a while....

Maybe I can get back on land in a refinery and change that, but it ain't a big deal. I had a heart-to-heart about how I conducted myself around women..needless to say, I don't get hit on by fatties and kooks like I used to. No more nice-guy/pushover in me, I bet. If my mom's gut was right, her dream daughter-in-law, who was a coworker of mine, goes to school for now about 500 miles away. Not that a social life would be possible for me right now, as things are. Bad area for good (or any) women and working in the Gulf....

Alternatively, my friend and I were tooting around town Thursday, when he pulled into the gas station and met up with his stepdaughter's b/f. She was cheating on him and mi amigo was ticked about it. He told the kid (a 23 y/o), but when I showed up at the house Christmas night, the guy was all like "Anything else you need honey?" What a crock! I could be worse off....like that pud--buying a ring with all my savings for a cheating 18 y/o!!!

 

well..i was in a relationship with a girl that didnt care about me for who i was..and she got violent when she didnt get what she wanted..she drained me...then cheated on me...but yet..here i am still trying to find a new gf...i want someone that loves me for me..not what i own...or should i say..dont own..

 

A lot of 'em that are single now actually married that "dangerous side" back then. My wife did- I just happened to grow up in the nick of time.

 

I stayed single till i was 43.Being married is definatly a chore sometimes.I am set in my ways after being single so long.

 

31 years old here, never married, or close yet for that matter. The last girl i dated was a blind date, lasted about 9 months (6 months longer than it should have, i relaize now). She met a guy who worked at the guard station of an air force base and flirted her way on base, got his number.. The same night i was visiting a friend in the hospital with a broken back, she was stabbing me in mine. They have been together for right about a year now, he was verbally and physically beating her and her belongings, was arrested in another state on a trip for hitting her and still together. I treated her like a woman deserves to be treated, rose pedals on her bed, massages at night, he hits her.. I don't understand the female species at all... It really has messed with my head..

I will not settle for just anyone, there has got to be someone who wants a real relationship.. isn't there? I am not sure anymore...

 

I was married 5 years,I now have been divorced 5 years. Married had it's nice points,but being single is GREAT!!! I do date every now and then and have a few close women friends. The only part I don't like about being divorced is the kids have to suffere sometimes. Would I ever get married again? probably,but I would be more careful this time. I am 34

 

I think men are more looks oriented in their early adulthood, then realize it ain't everything when they are single again in their 30's. Let's generalize more. I think it's fun!

 

have a g/f for two years now, she s cowgirl one of the coolest girls i know. weather its four wheeling riding horses or camping she loves it all. A guy told me one time, before you even get married the girl has to be your best freind someone you can do anything with go anywhere with, then she can be your lover, then after she becomes that and he said someother stuff i cant really remember. he said then she can be your wife. teh guy had been married happily for 45 years, i guess he might know something. im still young and dumb, 24 Lee

 

Very much single and I have no intention of ever changing. I see too many problem with relationships to bother with it. I do things my way, and I don't like other people bothering me all day. My co-workers wonder why they never see me outside of work. It's very simple; I can't stand any person for more than 8-10 hours a day.

 

I married at age 35, was married for six years. I am 57 now and wouldn't consider marrying again. I don't need somebody to look after and clean up after. I also don't have to explain myself or make excuses. I've been single too long to get accustom to having someone under my arm everyday. I have lady friends but they are just friends and will remain as such.

 

Sandrat and Flash, I take it you both have had bad experiences in the past. You both come off that its horrible being married.

You two are making me scared.