Well, it is over. Me and my gal had been dating for 3 years, 3 months, and 2 days. For the first 3 years it was a long distance relationship, her in school, me in the military. Well, as some of you know, I am no longer in the military. So I start going to school. We happen to both be going to the same school, both due to us being closer to each other, and because this is the best school I can afford for what I am going into. (I wish I could go to MIT) Anyways, I had two weeks off before school started, and we spent most of our time together. About a week into school, it started. We started fighting over everything, and anything we where not fighting over still irritated or annoyed the other one. I am not saying it is her fault, or mine neccassarily, but it happened. Today we broke up. Three weeks of almost non-stop fighting and bickering is all I could stand. I told her today while on break between classes for lunch. I dont know exactly what caused the fighting, I would assume that it is not because me or her changed, but because for the first three years, we where seperated most of the time, and never knew the intracacies of how one another worked. It has taken its toll it seems. I love her, and I wish to remain her firned, and confidant, and perhaps one day we could try again....I just...I just dont know any more......

 

distance tends to be a buffer - it happens often that when a couple get together after that, they find that things they dreamed up about each other, over the distance, really do not exist, so tempers flair, arguments happen, and you did right - breaking up is not really hard to do, just hard to accept.

 

but did I do the right thing....I am worried I didn't.

 

If you are arguing all the time, and life is getting too complicated, you NEED to be apart. Breaking up is the only course of action - a trial separation never is a good idea, unless there is a marriage to work on. If you are to be together, you will be. If you aren't you have now got the option, and the time to think about what comes next. To make your life and hers, miserable by arguing, fighting and yelling, is not what relationships are all about. If that happens, get out, and rethink the strategy. If you love her, do not play the field, just give both of you time to figure out if you really want to be apart - time is needed, guy.. just give it.

 

Yea, what he said. I've seen and heard & tried this "make it work" business. Cut it off, be nice, move on. Repeat as needed.

 

Theo, I am gonna email you, if you dont mind, ok...I trust your opinion so then will indulge you with a bit of info and try and get your honest opinion. if you dont mind? I will wait on your response to this on whether or not it is ok to email you.

I dont care to air everything out right now, and not on a public board, or at least this public of a board that gets this many hits. especially seeing as how there are people that know both of us that come here.

 

you can email me whenever you want, you should know that..