Question for husbands.
If you were in the garage or yard working on a project (one that it would not affect the outcome if you were to stop) and your wife came out with awesome news (a "job" she had been praying about) and tried telling you, Would you get ****ed off, ignore her etc because you are "busy" or would you understand she wanted to share the news with you and stop for two minutes while she told you about?

 

i would hate to be in his shoes about now.

 

If a man is wise...he pays attention to the wife, acknowleges he understood what she said, replies appropriately ...... then goes back to work. If you say something to the wife, that you think is important, and she doesn't respond...how do you feel?

 

he should have stopped and lisrened to you, and been excited for you, however i can tell you that when i am working on project i get very involved in it, even if it is something that you could stop and go back to. i focus my thoughts on the job at hand and an interruption that breaks that focus can upset me. all of this will be magnified if the project is not going how i planed (which they rarely do) so he could have been ticked of by something not going right with what he was doing and took it out on you... congratulations on the new job

 

Listen and acknowledge.

Sombody aint been married long.

 

Wlihntr is right,he should have been more enthusiastic for you,but probably got caught up in what he was doing.Distractions can be very frustrating,even if it is while doing something that is not very important.Dont put too much weight into it,he is just like most other guys.But,when he comes in the house say something like,I thought you would have been happy for me.Thats all.Let his own mind do the rest.If he is smart,after he thinks about it for awhile he will say he is sorry.I had the same situation happen with my little woman years ago,now she stays away from the garage unless it is an emergency or I ask her to come out there.But then I also make sure to ask her about her day when I am done in the garage.

 

Or too long !!

I am kinda weird about that sort of thing and my GF knows it. Like earlier posts say, when I am involved in something it is really hard for me to break my attention and think of other things. I wouldn't be rude or get mad but certainly would be a bit tough to show the appreciation she is striving for. That would come later.

 

I'm with King Triton and wlinhtr. I'll also toss in the safety factor. If he was working on a vehicle or using power tools or something else similar, it could have been dangerous to distract him, and that may be what he was upset about. My wife and I have gone through this a few times, and she knows that if she wants to be acknowledged and understood that she needs to wait for me to finish a given thought process, THEN she can have my undivided attention. Otherwise, she's likely to distract me from what I'm doing (possibly screwing it up), and she won't get the attention she wants because I'm ticked about being distracted.

BTW, I'm not accusing you here, I'm just saying that if you want him to respond in a positive way to what you have to say, you may have to learn to approach him in a way to which he won't respond negatively. Many of us guys are just wired funny that way. We're suckers for schmoozing. But, if you just waltz up and demand something from us, forget it. Then we're prone to not doing it just out of spite.

Jason

 

Guess what they're all trying to say is Give and Take.

 

Being single makes life so much easier.

 

> would you understand she wanted to share the news with you and
> stop for two minutes while she told you about?

Yes, but, only because we really cared about each other. The trouble would be if the other person did not care enough to stop, listen, and talk. Then arguing about it is useless because the problem is deeper than that one that just passed.

My wife and I have a unspoken policy not to let anything fester and forgive each other when the sun rises the next day and to thank God each morning we have another day to breath, with each other. It usually works.

Sometimes people get single minded about things. Sometimes it is better to hold in the good news and story until you are both kicking back late at night when you have each other's undivided attention then it is to try to force the attention you want unto them at that point.

Example: When either one of us is changing a diaper that has dripped yuckies down the child's leg and unto the floor and the child has been playing with it, it is not a good time to discuss the bright thing that has just happened. It is the time to get out of the way or help clean it up. So, usually one does one clean up thing, while the other parent does the other.

Teamwork takes a team.

Example: When my wife comes home after her eight hours, I do not tell her about my day first with the kids or my job, I talk to her about hers, IF, she wants to. If I think she does not want to hear about it at the moment and just wants to eat and read a book, I just let it be and go and do something else.

 

holy smokes!!!!
There really are guys out there like that???? Just dont tell my GF, she still thinks they are just in novels

Cheers!

 

There is one thing men dont seem to understand, or if they do , they forget too soon.

AND THAT IS , For every woman that is not being paid attention to by their man, there is a another man close by somewhere, just waiting to hear her words, and offer their shoulder to lean on.

Not comforting to us married guys, but a flat out fact of life,

 

yea but he is most likely a hair dresser that drives a new beetle with a rainbow sticker on the back and has a roomate named surgio

 

Sure, keep telling your self that, and one day you might believe it. The guys on the prowl, love to see husbands or boyfriends with that kind of opinion on their marriage or relationship. It makes the guys wife or girlfriend , even easier to get away from them.