But also remember, for every woman out there, there is a man that is already tired of her crap.

 

Wow, after reading all of these opinions, I bet Quarterhorsewoman will wish she hadnt asked. P.S. QW, he was just locked in to what he was doing at the time, am sure he meant no disrepect to you by the incident. We men are one track minded when in the garage, something to do with the concrete floor elevating their tetestarone past acceptable levels, I think,

 

however important it was to you at that point i will explain it to you like i explained it to my g/f "Hunnie our computer is a 2,3Gig P4 processor, it had 512Mb of RAM and runs smoothly....what happens when you ask it to do alot of things at once? thats right it gets slow and bogs a bit....its not good to run too many programs at once either....now my processor was created in 1975 and has not been upgraded...my memory is measured in bits not megs and i can honestly say that i can only do 1 thing at a time...so next time you want my undivided attention please ask me to talk to you when im done or wait untill i come up for a drink to talk to me...this way we wont have to argue" ...it worked pretty good for me

 

The reason I asked this in here was because he said he wanted me to post on this site and ask "my" guys what they thought about the situation. He was working on a deck and no it wasnt a cant return due to distraction etc. he said he just wanted to work on it. I was posted to mitch and boan he asked me to do it. I see both sides. I seldom "bother" him and this was jsut so awesome and he was the one I wanted to share it with more than anyone else. (part of why I married him) It was kinda a slap for me but life goes on. It wont damage the marriage. I did tell him next time I will get all my excitement out about something (if he is busy) with a friend, mom etc. and then go to him when he comes in the house. I am blessed with my guy and wouldnt trade him for anything in the world. My dear friend who I shared the news (albeit some wind gone from my sails) with said it best- He lost a moment of a lifetime but we have a lifetime and there will be other kinds of moments. Is that kewl or what. To everyone who has posted even the one who thinks being single is the way to be...thank you. My husband may thank you. He really did not believe I would actually post his question. If I cant go to my fellow Ford owners who can I go to? Y'all are great and I have to admit there is sooooooo much wisdom in here.

 

Most likely he was doing something he could physically stop, but not mentally. He was focused and concentrating, or mentally involved in it. He also could have been fustrated like the others said. If I were you, I'd mention it to him, something like "I am so excited about my new job, I didn't mean to completely interupt you (the other day..yesterday...whenever it happened) but I feel like you should be excited with me too, it's a great opportunity..etc etc. Let him know you wanted him to be excited with you instead of upset with you for interupting him, but don't drill him about it, that will just have an even more negative outcome. Good luck!

 

rebocardo is a marital genius. I have no higher wisdom than what he offered, but here's my 2 cents anyway:

Intense concentration is kind of like being asleep; a person needs a little transition time to re-focus.

Fresh cookies always get my immediate attention, but then every person has his/her own on-off switch.

 

With all due respect....
neither of you should be posting that here - you should be talking to each other AND LISTENING - really listening - not posturing with a rebuttal like most "discussions" go...


but I have to admit I've messed up like that too... when I'm in a project and I'm using all cylinders of the old noggin to resolve an issue.... sometimes I just TUNE OUT !!!

that's both unsafe and unwise ---- cuz the car is a LOT less dangerous than my wife on the warpath !

 

well as long as i wasnt in the middle of something that couldnt be stopped at that second id listen to ya and congratulate ya and encourage ya and prolly give ya a big kiss then tell ya after im done we will go out for dinner and celebrate. if it was at a point where i couldnt stop that second id tell ya give me two seconds so i can get this bolt in ( or whatever) then go to the original plan....there aint nothing as sexy as a smiling woman
as to what was said earlier about there always being another guy out there to take up the slack hes very right trust me id never do it to a friend but several times in the course of my life ive been the shoulder to cry on for a woman who was upset with her man and it has its rewards....

 

congrats on your new job. hope it's everything you were praying for

 

My wife doesn't bother me when I am working on a project unless it is an emergency. Can't say that I would ever be in that situation. However, if it did come up, I would probably tell her to come tell me while I was working and pretend to listen. Either that or I use the hearing loss excuse and tell her I can't hear her.

 

Men have like 120,000 little recepters between the right and left sides of the brain. Women have like 170,000. Men can rarely win a emotionally charged verbal augument with a woman

When doing mentally and physically demanding work men automatically focus, we can't help it. Women can juggle work and emotion at the same time. Guys, ever notice when you're focused at work and you bump your leg, get a sliver or smash your finger - you might cuss a little and then get back to it, almost like you can't stop. Women will usually realize they are hurt and stop to take care of whatever it is. If a guy stops or whines too much, he gets called a girl...

A lot of guys just don't have the aptitude for frustation and I'm one of them. My wife knows to wait till I stop for water before blowing my mind. If I were ever overly sugary or too receptive to her emotional needs, she would get mad and demand who the other woman was.

I think the best way to tell a guy something big, like a new job, is to wait till he's beween things. Then just tell him. Then wait a couple hours for it to soak in.

The wife and I have never had a disagreement that's lasted more than a few hours. I can read her mood a lot easier than I can remember a birthday, anniversary, or notice her new haircut. I know to retire to the shop instead of finding out, "what's wrong," with her.

 

well my wife know's better to bother me while i am working on my truck or bike so .. i dont have that problem.. so guy's for you'r bad luck...

 

Yeah, but not nearly as much fun in the long run. Remember, after every fight, you have to make up......

 

Of course you should stop and share this great moment with your spouse as it not only affects her but you as well- I never have figured out people that were too involved in their own life to share in the happiness of others. Why the hell would you be with with someone that you can't respect or care enough to share in their moments. EVEN when my spouse decides to rip me a new one, say something I disagree with or similar cirumstances, I still give her my full attention- after all she is the one who I chose to say I love and care about so dearly. Have you ever noticed a mother or father that just ignored what their kid was saying, because they would rather be involved in their own subject- nothing is worst as life is definitely precious- as are those people we " CHOOSE " to surround ourselves with. Hell if you want to ignore someone start with the people you care least about.

 

Wow...some of you guys are impressive..I didn't know I could get the male perspective on relationships here..and some genuinely thoughtful perspectives.