I think the line you came up with is good. It lets her know you are interested, and that there will be other folks around- sort of like a party atmosphere- that you won't necessarily be trying to head her to the bedroom. I'd leave out the 'My treat' part, though. I guess I'm a little old fashioned, and when you ask someone out, that part is implied and you might sound a little corny saying it. It is even alright to let her know you are nervous, she may even be impressed by a little nervousness!

STU

 

well i went to ask her out today... and... she wasnt there. what a waste of time. allthough i just talked to an old friend from highschool that knows her, and he is getting me her aim! woohoo!!! imo its a little easyer to use aim then to awkwardly walk into a doctors office to ask out the receptionist. i just cant wait, im so excited! emails or instant messages out of the blue are a common place around here!

 

Well hey, you were all nervous about it and now look, you got an easier way to deal with it, and yes i have had luck using aim,yahoo,msn, b/c sometimes it is just easier, but remember your eventually going to have to atleast call her up, but 1st catch up on the times with her, work on the friends thing, b/c asking a women out straight up only works in the movies and on tv or at bars when the women are a lil intoxicated lol. I mean put yourself in her situation then go from there. Good Luck

 

easyer, ya right LOL. im still all nervous. i have to wait untill i get her contact info... it's like, every second that goes by is taking too long!!! but i guess there isnt much else i can do but wait. well the good thing about this is its not like i havent seen her in a long time, its been like a week LOL. so i dont think i have to do too much catching up. ohhh well i guess i'll just have to sit here and wait... tick...tock...

 

hehe ive been there many times before man, just take it easy get sumthin to do that gets ya mind off things that way when ya do talk to her you will be yourself

 

i guess i have my old stand by, video games. but i tell you it is unbelievably hard to concentrate. if it wasnt getting dark i could go outside and work on my project truck but, i'll save that for later.

 

I'm sending you a copy of my personal card Pyscho.

 

I give all this advice and now Im the one who needs advice LOL. Hey bob know any other girls that need a guy perferably older than 18.....

 

My niece is available .
What state are you in ?

 

Lame North Carolina, I think all the girls avoid this place

 

I don't think it's a good idea to ask her out to a "friend's night out" because she may feel overwhelmed and intimidated by meeting a large number of new people. She might want to get to know you better before you parade her in front of your friends.

She might ask you how you got her AIM account info. and she may not appreciate someone giving out her personal info.

Good luck on whatever you decide.

 

valid points if i didnt allready know her. most of the friends at this getogether are people she knows. and whats so odd about a friend asking his friend who is friends with her to get her screen name? like i said though, valid points if i didnt allready know her.

 

Seems a little stalkerish. You know her and we don't so you can probably best decide how to proceed but things like that are to be avoided normally. You should have really taken notice of what she drives so you can tell if she's at work or not. It will save you the hassle of walking in there just to turn around to walk out like you are lost.

Once you know she's working go in to "make an appointment." While you're talking with her tell her there's this new [insert type of food or coffee house here] place and you'd like to take her there and catch up on what she's been up to. Exude confidence at all cost!. Don't hang around trying to talk forever. Get to the point, smile a lot and try to leave immediately after saying something clever that she hopefully laughed at. You want to leave a good parting impression.

Don't do dinner or a movie until you build some rapport with her. Unless she is already interested in you it will put a lot of pressure on her. If she responds positively to the lunch or coffee idea get contact info. You can give her your # if you want but you want to get her # at almost any cost.

If you get it wait 1 day. Exactly one day no more no less. Do not call her the next day call her the day after. Make plans for whenever but make the call on the third day.

You must now invoke the "7-7 delete rule." If you call and she is unable to make any plans for whatever reason wait 7 days. Call her again and ask her again. Leave your number both times. If you get no response from the second request within 7 days you must delete all her contact info and move on.

If you don't get her # and have to leave yours your only 7-7 option would be to go back in person to her work and ask again but this looks more desperate and is a PITA hence the almost necessity of getting her #.

Remember to be yourself as much as possible but try to show confidence. Look her directly in the eye when she is speaking, lean back in your chair at lunch. Be relaxed not fidgety. Don't talk too much. Let her talk and appear very interested in whatever she says. Once you get her going she will likely rant for an hour and enjoy herself immensly. Use words she uses and paraphrase things she says and say it back to her. She won't notice but will think you guys have a really good connection. If you have trouble keeping eye contact as your attention wanders try looking from one eye to the other at regular intervals to keep your attention focused.

Let us know how it goes and feel free to paypal me, say, $50.

 

I agree with RRMike about the 7-7 delete. Some "prospects" I had back in my early 20's didn't quite make the 7-7. It was more like a 7-3 or a 6-2 delete. Maybe a bit harsh, but hey, I guess I just wasn't that interested to begin with.

Actually, my wife called ME. We met at her sister's wedding (we were both in the wedding party.) So, we get to foolin' around, and the next day is the gift opening. Well, that went nice, and we exchanged numbers thinking I would call her in a couple days. WELL! I hadn't been home 5 minutes and she called ME!

Basically, confidence is key. Fear is NOT an option. Being shot down is not failure, but a non-attempt is. If you must, bring buddies to watch you crash and burn. All learning experiences for the next time.

Go up to the girl with a $#!&-eating grin and ask her out.

Probably a bit late, so how did it go if you already did?

 

well, i havent talked to her yet. i have just been having one hell of a work week. and then with the long weekend, doctors arent open. and the friend who was going to get me her screenname is a slow peice of crap when it comes to things like that. so my final option is to just put my biggest s***Eat'n grin on, and go talk to her. thats about the only thing i can do right! everytime i try this i cant get that huge grin off my face. the thing that stinks is i might not even have time tomorrow! i have to work at 1pm and i dont know what time she gets there. but if i do have time. LOOKOUT!!! ohh and btw i do know what she drives. she told me a while back, an you dont forget a pretty ladies ride.