How many people here participate in internet dating? Or even have opinions about it?

Foe me being seperated from my wife for nearly a year & divorce has been in process for 7 months now I thought I would give it a try.

I have to say that I've met a few nice Woman doing it. One turned into a sexual relationship that was fun while it lasted but wasn't really what I was looking for.

I'm not ashamed so say that I have been participating in Internet Dating.
I have custody of my 2 oldest children so I can't quite drag them out looking for Women & I don't drink much so that leave me without the bar scene.

Not much left for options are there?

 

You might want to give that eharmony.com site a shot. I filled out the app(free), and I got some hits pretty soon there after. The questions took forever to answer, but I guess its better to be more in-depth than just the basic age, sex, height, etc questions. I never signed up officially to get the peoples info. They send me emails all the time. You'd be amazed how the price drops when you dont buy in initially (hint).


Rich

 

If you have custody of two children, that must mean they are dependents. You should not be out dating women and having sex with them. Divorce is bad enough, going out and having sex with strange women (which were tested for AIDs, Herpes, and everything else before you even kissed them?) is not what your children deserve.

The children own you until they are 18 as you are now their sole support. If you have custody of the children it must be because you thought your former wife unworthy of it. What will happen to the children if something happens to you?

Do your children really need to know Daddy is with some other woman having sex? Think about someone else besides your self, like your dependent children, and skip this Internet dating and everything else. Your children should be your only focus for the next few years, not yourself. imo.

 

I know some people that have found others online and a couple of them are now happily married. msn.com had an article on internet dating last fall and they ran a survey. One of the things that came up was how so many of the people (well over 50%) liked the fact that you can get to know a lot about someone before ever meeting them, thus saving time. Sure, anyone can lie but if they do (and some will) then they are really not looking to meet someone and are just wasting everyones time. As the online time grows, people can determine who is serious and who is a flake as well as who they would like to actually meet (ideally in a public place too). I'd say go for it! Check out msn chat rooms. On another note, I would not advise looking for sex online.

 

Wow, I hour after posting it looks like I was flamed! I was prepared for it though. I had doubts about posting the thread but like I originally said, I'm not ashamed.

rebocardo,
Buddy, you don't know what is going on in my situation or with my children. If I wasn't doing what I'm suppose to be doing as for caring for my children, do you think I would have custody of them?
I live in this small town & have been here for a year now. I don't know anybody & don't get out to meet anybody. My closest friends are 200 miles away in the metro area of Minneapolis. It is not healthy for a person to live like a hermit locked away in his home. So I use Internet Dating to get out once or twice a month. Perhaps I can meet someone special, you never know.

My kids go to their Grandmothers home for a sleep over when I do go out. She enjoys having them & they enjoy going over there. None of the Women that I have gone out with have ever been to my home. So my children are not affected at all.
I also did not say that I was going out having sex with random Women. Maybe 10 years ago yes but not now. I originally said that one was turning sexual & that is not what I'm looking for, so it didn't last.

No hard feelings though, I can see where your coming from.

wheelMA1,
I've been over there and filled out there little forms. They can't do nothing for me because I'm still officially married. Although the marriage has been over for some time now. Just one more court hearing & it should be over.

CowboyBilly9Mile,
Thats comforting to know. I personally don't know anybody who even admits to internet dating. I'm sure alot of people are ashamed to admit their participation. I don't know why they would be.



Moderators,
I have a feeling this may go in a direction not intended for this forum. Feel free to move it to the appropiate forum if you would like.

 

WOW..are you saying all internet dating is bad or are you saying anyone with kids should never date...............

 

Everyone can and will remain cool on this, I know!

 

Quote:

Originally Posted by rebocardo

If you have custody of two children, that must mean they are dependents.
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Pretty ballsy and insulting comment for a situation and person you do not know.

 

park911 a to you, the approach that you are taking shows how smart you are going about it. it sounds like you know what to do and how to handle it. there is nothing "wrong" with internet dating. if you choose to do "adult things" that is your buisness. just pursue it with caution. again a up to you. good luck in your seach for the right mate.

 

I don't think many people I know are scared of Internet dating. One of my friends just got engaged to someone he met on eharmony.com. It just has to work - it doesn't it?

Bill

 

I tried one of those internet dating services once,and I knew the moment we met,that she was not the girl for me,she had a tattoo that said WARNING:Not puncture resistant.so I simply folded her back up and,,,,,,

Sorry,I felt like this post needed a little lightening up and I know parks911 has a sense of humor so,,,

 

I think you have the right attitude parks911.Try to be patient though.Perhaps the right one will find you.Good luck.

 

I've tried it and at first I was a little embarrassed to admit that I had. But after I while I got over it. I met my current girlfriend via a dating site and I didn't tell anyone that I had a 'girlfriend' until I'd actually gone and met her and even after that I was careful about who I told. My only problem now is that I have a relationship with a girl that lives 3000 miles away from me.

 

Huh?


Thats good, I like that.
I won't go there, she might be full of hot air or helium.

 

Parks
Several years ago my wife and i decided we had had enough, and we split up. Having been out of the dating scene for a more than a few years i decided trying the online dating scene, and it was great for the most part. I started with the AOL rooms cause that was the provider i used. i met many women that way and most were pretty nice. i will admit that some had issues but the nice thing is that you can meet someone without all the BS of a bar etc. you get to know someone first before you have to worry about appearances etc. Now im not what ya call "the Rock" or anything i was overweight but not overly obese, and ive always had a thing for women with a midwest accent. I met women from all over. I spent time travelling to several places and metwomen from Ohio and Pennsylvenia. One was ten years younger than me. It was great!I will say that i met one chick who was totallly nuts she seemd real nice when we typed back and forth, even on the phone but in person all i could think of was Cathy Bates in "Misery"..... Eventually i met this other woman online and i had a pretty permanant relationship wiht her she lived in NJ i was in Brooklyn at the time and that went ok for about a year ( the first year was more of a "lets see how many women i can get laid by thing") we dated almost a year and were contemplating moving in together but i decided against that. i dated several more women from online and have had some great times and met some truly wonderful people.( and ive had some wonderful sex from online relationships) and um i never caught any thing from them women cause you always use protection and try to have standards for women..
I would highly recommend online dating...
as for me well after a while my ex wife realized the errors of her ways and she begged me to one more time work it out and being that we have two kids ( who came with me when we split) i have been back with her for a while now. if we ever split up again i will surely go right back to online dating i think by far its the best medium to meet someone these days. Its pretty safe too if you take the time to chat for a while then go to phone chat then when youre cofident you meet in person it works well.... Hope this all works out for you!!!