Parks911, it sounds like you are putting your children first by insulating them from the fear of another woman in Daddy's life. Divorce is tough enough for kids to handle and it's made even more difficult if they see their Dad slipping away from them, too. Too many newly-divorced dads feel the need to jump right back into the saddle, so to speak, without regards for minor childrens' needs. Being a Dad is a lifetime commitment, I'm in my 22 year of being a Dad and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I'm also lucky enough to have found a lifelong partner who tolerates my quirks as I tolerate hers.

Good luck with your kids. You sound like a guy with his act together.

 

I look at it this way, if you want to try it then go for it. I was in an online relationship for almost 2 yrs. She was in florida and of course me in arkansas. It didnt work out obviously but i know a lot of ppl that it has worked for and now they are happily married. It is a great way to get to know ppl but you have to trust they are telling you the truth about everything. Trusting them is the only hard part but it can happen. Anyway, good luck on this and hope it works for you like it has many others. Also u can try cupid.com and search locally.

 

Not very many people are speaking up. I know there has to be more participating in this or have opinions.
Wait, it is Saturday night isn't it. They all must be one their Internet Date.

Bob,
I've already been in & out of that stage. 3 1/2 years ago is when the marriage should have ended when I caught her practicing infedility. I am the one that forgave her then & said we could work it out. I was mistaken. I have caught her numerous times since then. She just couldn't leave her boyfriends alone. Boyfriends=plural, Meaning more then 1. Many time more then 1 at the same time.
I don't need that in my life. During that whole dilema I was monogamous. I finnaly said enough is enough, I got sick of being played like a fool. She still calls me trying to come home but I either say no or don't accept the collect call. She only lives about 20 miles away & has to call collect.

I want to find a good Woman. I know they are out there somewhere but I am going to have to sift through the trash to get to the good ones.

 

careful- a guy i use to work with, ( we'll call him Gunnar- cause thats his real name ) "met" a woman online, sent her $1400 bucks for a plane ticket so she could visit him, and... he waited at the airport, she never showed up!

anyways... internet dating... what a great way to meet people who you would NEVER run into in real life. it opens many options. i actually ran into a old school mate online, ended up dating her for a few months. and as mentioned above, you get to know the people before you meet.

Rebocardo- no where in Parks post did i get the impression he was just meeting women, sleeping with them and moving onto the next. try not to jump to conclusions, but i mean no offense to you.

 

My Cousin Deb.now at 49, practically raised her 2 children by herself, after the Father started exploring other's.

Well, 2 years ago she went on-line & met 2 men.Both between 45-54.
The 1st one ended up being a Dud, The 2nd however is a great guy & believe me, Deb deserves a Great guy. They have been together for almost 2 years.

When I met him,we had something to talk about >as he drove a 2001 Ford F-150.

 

My 49 year old sister met a guy from Ohio (she was in NJ) on the internet and they were married this past fall. He's a very nice guy who had just gone through a divorce and wanted to meet someone who shared his "country" values. I had the honor of giving her away and haven't regretted it for a minute.

 

BuiltToughF250,
1400 bucks!! She played him didn't she. I'm not that careless with my cash. It is hard enough to come buy as is. I don't mind spending it on a Woman but someone that I've never met will not get my cash.

Mil1ion,
I had a feeling you were going to move it. I'm surprised it lasted up there as long as it did. Believe me when I say I never intended it to be controversial. I thought it may be a fun topic to talk about.

jpsartre12,
Thats comforting to know that some have had sucess. I have learned that everything is not about sex. I'm not looking for sex. I'm looking for friendship & someone to talk to & go enjoy many different activities. Sex is fun & needed at times but since I've found the 1 player mode it isn't high on importance.

 

Herray for you you are old enough to know what to do go were your heart tells you.

 

I want to find a good Woman. I know they are out there somewhere but I am going to have to sift through the trash to get to the good ones.[/QUOTE]

just for the record i wasnt saying you should bring your ex back.. i was just saying thats how it worked out for me.. every situation is different, and i think staying away from your ex is prolly the best thing for you and the kids with the situation as you describe...
as for meeting a nice woman im sure you will find one internet dating and more than likely more than one.. i think its a great medium good luck hunting!

 

Parks911, I can't speak for other people but I met a lovely lady on an Internet dating site and went on to marry her. One of the best decisions I ever made, but you do need to be careful because there are a lot of scam artists out there trying to take advantage of people.

 

Yea it can be like a lemon at a appliance store

 

Hey Parks, This is for you, when you're internet dating.

 

Hey Mil1ion that is a great one..

 

That is good but I'd use that one for cyber sex.

 

5 years ago I placed an ad on the AOL site. I knew I wanted to settle down and I was sick of the conventional ways of meeting women. I dated lots when I was younger. I liked the idea of checking out interested women in my bathrobe while drinking coffee on a Sunday morning as well. Instead of wasting time, Saturday nights, and money on the "not my types". Well, I got lots of returns. I chatted, IM'd, emailed lots of women over many months. I even tried to meet one out one night. She never showed. She prolly did and I must look like a dork, LMAO. The last and most important reply was from a woman just an hour and a half away North.(Richmond VA). We emailed, and all the other stuff for 3 weeks before I asked if I could call her. Our first phone call lasted more than 5 hours. We hit it right off. A year later she sold her house and moved in with me. A year after that we were married in a small private ceremony on a plantation just outside of Williamsburg, VA. First time marriage for both. We have since moved to NC and been happily ever after. I often wonder how I got so lucky. I do have some advice though. I am pretty good at keeping details and I saw alot of people that were very lonely, it happens to most everyone, and had a hard time keeping the same story. We don't tell many people how we met. usually its just the "A friend introduced us" thing... Lots of people I know for fact couldn't get passed the idea of meeting a "stranger" I think they called it when it came to online dating. To each his own. My younger brother on the other hand has had nothing but horrible luck when it came to online dating.... I like hearing his funny stories though. Good luck.