Is it just me or is there an overwhelming lack of common courtesy these days? Whatever happened to....

...letting somebody with a couple of items jump in front of you in line at the grocery store?

...helping an older person with their packages?

...letting the next car in line merge on to the highway?

...yielding to pedestrians?

...holding the door for the people coming in behind you?

In the town that I live, a fairly affluent suburb of Dallas, it seems that people are getting increasingly rude. I rarely see people extend to others any type of courtesy at all, let alone the very basic examples I mentioned above.

I suppose it has to do with the fact that people today tend to feel that their needs are more important than anybody else.

What do you think?

John

 

Sad to say it died along with commom sense:-X23 I try to be courteous every chance i get i deal with the public almost daily and it irritates me how rude folks can be.






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My husband and I both still do all of those things, with the exception of the lane merging thing. It irks me when me and the rest of the people are sitting through the traffic lights and some jerk blows by us in a merge lane just to get there before us.

Common Courtesy is definately scarce these days. I generally thank the person anyway for not holding the door. Who knows, maybe the next time that person will think to hold the door for someone else. People are in such a hurry these days, the few seconds or minutes it costs to be courteous is just too demanding.

One time a lady in the elevator just grinned as the door shut. She wouldn't look me in the eyes when I showed up at the same office she went to.

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I was taught common courtesy as a child. If I didn't hold the door, use "please" & "thank you", I could expect a smack side my head by my MOM. Most people today give you a funny look if you are courteous. It's almost as if they think you're up to something. I think that this is part of the problem with kids these days. When I was growing up if I screwed up I could expect a smack from the nearest adult, and then even more once my Mom found out. These days if you ever thought of doing that you would end up in world of trouble. If more people taught their children common courtesy , respect and tolerance for others this world would be a far better place. My daughter (9 yrs) is far more courteous and respectful than most adults, and will comment about it. I just tell her that some people didn't have a proper up-bringing like she's had. Maybe someday it will rub off.

 

I agree with Aogden. Common courtesy and manners are only taught in the home. Sadly, they aren't taught by many adults anymore.

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It's crazy to think what this world is going to be like in the next 10-20 years. It has changed so much over the last few years it's hard to fathom how much it is going to change in the future. We're on a downward spiral, this no courtesy thing leads to worse things. America's small problems are going to be big ones soon. I think this country is getting worse everyday and I don't even know if there is a way to get better.


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agree with all the posts.....good manners are in short supply these days. It almost shocks some people when you say thank you or hold a door. I think alot of young people just don't get it at home, but I have had my share of rude adults too. I try not to let them ruin my day otherwise they've gotten me twice!

 

I think part of it that it used to be that only one parent worked, and both parents spent more time with the family.

Nowdays, both parents work and they always seem to be in such a rush that they overlook the little things. Like taking the time to drum it into the kid's heads how show small courtesy's to others.

When it comes to driving, taking a courtesy offered is just as important as giving one. Like Carlene said, it gripes me when you give someone space to merge into and instead of taking a sure thing, Mr. Butthead races six cars ahead in the merge lane and trys to wedge himself in between two cars at the end. Then the whole lane comes to a stop while he gets in.

 

Well, I'm pleased to say that 'I do all those things you are talkig about'.
If I hear a child or adult ask for something I will look them in the eye and say,"You never said please,....whenever you ask for something,you should always say please",plus, when you receive it,you say Thank you !
Then from the adult,I get a weird look.
I usually follow up with," Adults are supposed to say please too, How else will the children learn ?"
No fights yet,a few dumb looks from them but,nothing serious.

It's tough being an extrovert.

Courtesy: Treat people the way you would like to be treated.
and yes,I don't take any offence being told the same if I accidently
slip by it for some unknown reason.

Calgary, thank goodness, has Many people living here that show courtesy to others.

We are basically a city that has a community minded spirit.



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I am very courteous. I always make sure I used please and thank you, maam and sir....Atleast some of us young ones still have good manners!!

Gig'em

 

>Is it just me or is there an overwhelming lack of common
>courtesy these days? Whatever happened to....
>
>...letting somebody with a couple of items jump in front of
>you in line at the grocery store?
>
>...helping an older person with their packages?
>
>...letting the next car in line merge on to the highway?
>
>...yielding to pedestrians?
>
>...holding the door for the people coming in behind you?

I do all the above and more. I also appreciate when someone else does them for me. I was taught good manners at a young age and I continue to use them today. My 4 year old son has very good manners now and I hope to keep it that way. I think, in general, most people don't take the time to be courteous to others because they are in too big of a hurry.

 

My family is southern(alabama) and I now go to school in Alabama so I have always had the southern hospitality thing in me where I open doors and say ma'am and sir please and thank you. I always hold the door open for someone right behind me or will open it for someone coming from the other side. Its just what I was taught to do when I was young. But I grew up outside Washington DC and there is a serious lack of courtesy. In fact when I say Ma'am or sir to someone I kinda get a wierd look like I am some sort of tourist even though I have lived there sine I was 3, nobody seems to understand that its not unusual for someone to be nice for no reason.

Just my thoughts

JON

 

Common Courtesy is kinda like the flu.. once somebody gets it, it is going to spread to the people around them pretty quick. Unfortunately being rude is the same way. We live in a society where courtesy is no longer expected by many people...in fact many are surprised when you are courteous. Too many people have the me first attitude. They will do anything to first achieve their own ends and then if it is not too much of a inconvenience they will help somebody else. This is not to say all people are like this. There are still decent people. I try to practice courtesy always.

 

Common courtesy, and the lack thereof, comes from the pervasive selfishness that has overtaken many facets of our society. Many people today will hear a story about how someone took advantage of someone or something, or complained about something, just to get something free. When others hear that story, they think that the person who told it is ingenious for getting something out of the deal. The praise that these people get for this merely reinforces the behavior for the next time they are presented with a similar situation.

I was flying back home from Chicago this week, and there was bad weather in Atlanta..so they diverted us to Knoxville to fuel up for the return trip. I heard many folks complaining and blaming the airline, and scheming to complain to the airline in order to get frequent flyer miles for free or some other such nonsense. Now, dont get me wrong, if there is negligence, there should be appropriate compensation. But, i dont think that airlines have any control over the weather.

This pervasive "me first" attitude is what the children of this country are being fed. Their parents even go so far as to take that same attitude with their children. Making sure that the kids dont "get in the way of what I want out of my life". If I hear one more person say " I am gonna get what's mine" , and do that head shake thing, I am gonna be sick.

As a southerner, I get chastised for having manners, opening doors for people, and generally being pleasant. I can be a business man, and I have to be. I can be tough when I have to be. But, I try to show my children that you can be good to people, but not be weak at the same time.

Its just plain laziness to be selfish.

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I certainly try to do all those things, and hope that I always do, but I'll be the first to admit that I've undoubtedly let my let my courtesy slip on occasion.
I often get flack for saying this in Washington, but I'm proud of the fact that so much of my family is from rural northern Idaho. Because it was just "the way things are done" my father and mother drummed courtesy into my head my whole youth. Something just doesn't feel right if I know there's somebody behind me and I don't hold that door open for them.
In the last area I lived in, the community voted to go from unincorporated King County to a city. They became Kenmore to avoid being annexed by neighboring Bothell. The folks in the new city hall decided on the town motto of "In Kenmore, Courtesy is Contagious". Since I was in high school at the time, I got to see the youth reaction to it. Aside from a few ASB kids, everybody made fun of it. Most of the kids thought it was cool to be contrary and stay rude. Even in my group of friends there were guys that laughed at the motto. I'd say I was one of a handful of people under 50 in that whole city that actually thought the motto was good and realized what the council was trying for. The city now has one of the ruder populations in the area, and I'm pleased to say I no longer live there.
It's rediculous the kind of crap that's acceptable now that would have been the basis for having a few words with someone 30 years ago.

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