Over the years I used my "classmates" account to find out how my friends of yester-year are doing. its an old account and I used it rarely.

this week I found out that a very close neighbor during my teem years was murdered by her husband in front of their daughter. I was horrified, upset, and now cant get that out of my mind.

thats it for me...no more classmates. the past is the past.

 

Wow, tragic indeed! The poor daughter will have to live with that nightmare scenario for the rest of her life....... Sucks to find out tragic news in any fashion tho...

 

I've been a member at classmates for a long time. A free account though as I see no point in paying for their extras.

I found that my high school's Alumni Association is a much better way to keep track of old classmates. They know who was in the class and do a fairly good job of keeping it up-to-date without relying on people to voluntarily sign up.

My best friend in high school was the first of my 615 classmates to die and the Alumni Association notes this. (The story is irrelevant to this thread.) One of our mutual friends, whom I've known since elementary school, died about 15 years ago. When I got word I started doing some research and all I could find was his obituary and the date -- January 1. Based on the date my thoughts wandered from DUI to suicide and back. Last month I finally learned that it was a motorcycle accident, but I don't have details beyond that.

Without my high school's Alumni Association I'd still be in the dark. They know a lot more than does classmates and keep the information well above the gossip level. You might see if your high school has an active association.

~Bass

 

I don't use either because I don't care what happened to the others. The friends I have keep in touch using a telephone.

 

 

Graduating in a class of more than 600 with a total school enrollment of more than 2,000 it would have been impossible to keep up with everyone I knew by phone. Moving hundreds of miles away from my home town made it even harder.

Social media has been a godsend in this regard. I've reconnected with about 100 people that I would no longer know without it.

 

Wow! I couldn't even name 50 people I even know, period.. maybe only 5 from school days if that many.

 

I'm from a class of 177 or so. I have been running people down for the last 10 years for reunions. We do a small one every year because people can't always make the big ones, people keep dropping dead, and we generally like to get together. I've found a lot of deaths, a suicide or two. One guy wants nothing to do with it, one guy says he'll think about it, doesn't show then drops dead. The guy I had MC the last reunion, the most alive guy in the class--dropped dead last week. But there are still dozens of other folks I enjoy getting together with.

So you either like it or not, you can't blame FB or CM or FTE or any other social media outlet.

The days of "lost and gone forever" are over in most cases. If you want them to be.

If you want to forget, well that's always been an option.

Just so you know: They're all going to die. See 'em while you can or write them off now.

Glad I could help.

 

Real life has a way of sobering us up especially when something like Speakerfritz's discovery becomes known. Even though we read similar stories almost daily when its someone we know or knew it hits home quite significantly.

When Classmates.com first came into being I'd check the various schools I attended over the years looking for people I remembered for one reason or another. I connected with a few in real life to varying degrees of "success" I guess you might say. I was able to date a few of the more desirable girls from a few classes which was fascinating all by itself. I found it most interesting they were aware of most of their popularity but it didn't really enhance their self-esteem or "happiness" out in the real world. Most of them were doing well, no tragic stories that came to light.

I did learn even though I tried keeping a very low presence in or around school I didn't manage to stay completely obscure as I played in a band that had a decent following around this city and smaller outlying communities. One reason for the minor obscurity was my appearance in and out of school quite different.

Some of the people I would have liked contacting and catching up didn't seem to be part of the Classmates.com site---IIRC there were "shout outs" if you were looking for someone. This was before "facebook" was such a huge thing and while a few were found whether they replied was hit and miss.

Good site for what it was----paying for it a definite no-no for me.

 

I haven't been on Classmates.com in about 5-years. So yesterday this here thread pops up and last night I get an email from Classmates.com for the first time in 5-years. How weird is that!

 

We only had about 45 kids in my senior class so I can keep up with the ones I want to pretty easily. I want to a small private school across town so a lot of my friends weren't classmates anyway. I went to 2 funerals in the last 18 months or so. Dudes dying n their early 60's. Hindsight for them suggests they probably should have altered their lifestyles about 30 years ago & they may still be with us. My biggest surprise cam before the FB & internet days back when the telephone was the manner of communication. Called an old friend who had moved away that I hadn't talked to in a couple of years. His wife answered the phone and I asked for Terry. She sat there for a minute and asked who this was in kind of a weird tone. I told her and her response was " OMG, you didn't know. Terry's dead!" Yes, Terry had passed away in his sleep a couple of years ago and I didn't even know it. Hit me like a gut punch. so, no matter how the news is conveyed, it still sucks when you find out bad news.

 

It's almost as if "they know"....

 

Yeah, no kidding!

 

There's so many algorithms that capture your viewing habits and such you'll have that sort of thing quite often. If I look at a tool on eBay next time I'm on a Google site I'll have an ad from a tool-related company. If I click on an eBay sellers page that same company comes up on the same Google pages.

I have a relatively robust ad blocker but they get through some way or another. I just avoid clicking in those ad while on those sorts of pages.

 

I mostly solved this a long time ago. If I'm out searching for products or solutions that take me anywhere near a retail site I conduct my search in a private browser window.