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Old Oct 21, 2003 | 11:14 PM
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the spilling your guts thread

I have had this girl for about 4 months now. We miscommunicated one time and I left, feeling like I hurt her. I had a lot of feelings for her, and for a long time I thought she did too. I never told her though. I was afraid. I still am. I really did like her. We had so many things in common. 1 hour and 54 minutes have past since I called her and heard the guy in the background that was all over her clearly say that he loved her and that he wanted more.
 
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Old Oct 21, 2003 | 11:28 PM
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Not as easy as fixing the truck huh Matt? If only they made wrenches to fix relationships.
 
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Old Oct 21, 2003 | 11:29 PM
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Plenty of fish in the sea. Date as many chicks as you can so you can figure out what you like and dislike about women. And rember, people change so if you find someone 100% perfect now, if they change at all, will they still be perfect?
 
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Old Oct 21, 2003 | 11:34 PM
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Hey, yeah it sucks when you meet someone you click with. But guess what, there are more fish in the sea. Take your time get and get over her. But the sooner you get out and find someone else all your thoughts about her will fade away.
As for telling her. Heres my story. I have had a girl as a friend for over two and a half years. After all the morons she had dated I felt like I should tell her I had come to love her. Well that all fell through because all she wanted was to be friends. Even though she was giving signals that she was interested in more. We too have lots in common, but is best we just be friends. So now I have a cute 28 yr old Canadian I met in Hawaii that ive known for about four months.
So I guess dont be afraid to tell her how you feel man. Youve got one life give it a chance.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 03:59 AM
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Been there, sucks. But time heals most pain. You'll find "your" girl someday, and then you won't remember anyone you dated before her.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 08:01 AM
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Ok its been like 11 hours now. I didn't sleep at all last night and during breakfast and biology every time I thought of her, I just got sick to my stomach. Its not so much that I heard the other guy, but that its been going on all along. How can I trust anyone, the only person that I can talk to is a good friend who also happens to be her friend.

I am beating myself up over trusting this girl.
I don't date a lot of girls, in fact she is the first. Maybe I have some false perception of reality about that. The funny thing is that I haven't said anything to her, she doesn't even realize what I am going through.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 09:50 AM
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It's time to STOP and give your head a shake. You are finished with her. Shake your head again. You need a major distraction. Shake your head again. Call up your cousin, you know, the one that is always there when you need help. Shake your head again. If your cousin is busy, go get your hands dirty. Work on your truck, grease the front end. Shake your head again. Find any thing to do to keep your mind off of your EX-girlfriend. Shake your head as often as necessary.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 12:39 PM
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Mattsbox99. Life is too short to suffer in silence over a misunderstanding and lost love. When two people are really connected, they sense in each other any strong feelings. If there was something you wanted to say to her, and you couldn't, she should have sensed your distress. Clearly, she already knows how you feel, and she is waiting for you to take the stand and say it. Or worse case, she just doesn't care. You need to follow your gut, go up to her eye to eye. Tell her what is on your mind. If it works out, that's wonderful. If it doesn't, you'll at least feel better for saying how you feel. Helps you with closure. As for your trust. People should earn your trust.
Oh. And keeping really busy does help.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 01:08 PM
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Really dude, you dont want any "what if"s
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 01:15 PM
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tell her how you feel and what you are thinking. don't want to look back and wonder. trust me, there are plenty of times i still look back and wonder.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 01:58 PM
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I thought all relationship's started as Friend's.

I know I wouldn't date or marry the enemy


You'll be okay Matt,
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 02:42 PM
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Wow its been a long day. Almost 18 hours now, with no sleep and classes yet to finish today.

I wonder how many people came here and started writing something and then erased it without posting?
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 03:43 PM
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Man, talk to her.
But a bit of advice... if she's the first girl you've ever dated... she proboally isn't the right one anyways. But she may be
Atleast tell her how you feel, if it works out great... if not you wont have to worry about it.
It may feel bad at the moment to be turned down
but its better than living a life wondering if you would have been turned down.
Atleast talk to her, or write her a letter or something, so she knows how you feel.
Take it easy bub...
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 05:02 PM
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I can't talk to her. I try to write to her and all I do is break down. I keep thinking about all the things we have in common, all the things we like to do. I wish that there was something I could say, I fell for her a long time ago. I am just going to avoid her until she reponds to me, I am not pushing anything, I refuse to share a girl. Thats not right.
 
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Old Oct 22, 2003 | 05:10 PM
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Take it from someone who just went through about the samething. Talk to her and try to sort things out. Not knowing what is going on is worse then knowing. It will drive you crazy. And you will get to the point where very bad thoughts start running through your head all the time.
Talk to her you never know it might be what shes been waiting for.
 
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