My mom passed away today. she has been sick for the last 2 1/2 months. It all started with a heart attack, wich led to open heart surgery. A triple bypass and Mitrol Valve repair. She recovered from that. Than they had to put in a PEG tube in her stomach due to swallowing difficulties. She got a Ceptic infection from that. The tube tore away from her stomach lining. Resulting in emergency surgery to repair her stomach lining, and put in another tube, in her intestine. They also removed her galbladder, while they were in there. She died today at 5:17 PM. alone. in a hospital bed. But that is the way she must have wanted it. our family had spent the last 2 days with her, since the doctors told us it would be anytime now. She waited until we all left to go home this evening. 30 minutes after we left, she passed on. The nurses sat with her. They told us she smiled twice and chuckled, and then passed on. It helped hearing that. In a way it made it a lot easier to lose her. Knowing she wasnt in pain anymore.
She went to heaven tonight to be with my dad, and her mom. god i am going to miss her.
she had a long fight, and she gave it everything she had. She will be missed by many.
matt
I am just glad we all had a chance to say goodbye.

 

I am very sorry for your lose, I know it is hard to lose a family member

 

Our hearts are with you and your family.

 

My condolences. My wife had a similar experience with her grandmother dying shortly after she and her mother left the hospital. I've always believed its not because her grandmother wanted to die alone, but because "now that she's said goodbye its okay to go."

 

I very very sorry for your lose .
My great grand mother held my little brother and said " I can go now that I have seen Jordan"
I few hours later she passed on -
It isn't easy but it is easier when you can say good bye .
Best wishes

 

I don't know what you believe, so there's a limit to what I can say...

I know that when all was said and done after my own Mom passed on - everyone told me that she had a wonderful life.

And really - I suppose that is the very best that any of us can ask. Your mother sounds as if she was a very wonderful person - smiling and chuckling to the very end. I think that says a lot right there, beyond not suffering it sends a message if I'm reading it right:

"Don't worry. Everything is what it is supposed to be."

I sorrow for you, and will pray for you and yours. Please believe that wherever she has gone - everything is new and she is SAFE from the ugliness of the world as we know it today....

Also know that the last thing on earth she would want for you is to be sad, and depressed. She is free at last - and would only want the best for you!


~In sincere sympathy...

'Wolf

 

sorry to hear about your loss. 5 people ive known most of my life have left in the last month, and its been pretty difficult but i always look at it like this; they are in a WAY BETTER place now, reguardless of religion or belief. maybe that sounds a bit morbid, but if the afterlife is what we all think it is, they can watch over you in peace. be strong and always remember the good times.

 

Very sorry to hear that. Know that she is in a better place right now looking down on you wishing for your happiness and your safety.

My mother passed in a similar manner only a few years ago, I can understand how it feels right now. The emptiness will pass, but the memories will last forever.

Sometimes it feels better just to vent, even if it's to a stranger,it allows your mind to put things into perspective and to understand the feelings you may be having. Remember that and use the PM system if you ever need an ear to turn to.

Jared

Edit: Ok, the PM system doesn't work, I guess the email system still does however.

 

I feel your loss man. Today is the eighteenth anniversary of the night my fiancee died in a motorcycle accident in Boston. If it's any consolation things will get easier as time goes on. Not much but enough to live day to day.

 

(for pashtrd)

Sorrow's Rain

Never be ashamed of tears, for each and every one of them
Is a gift from God allowing us to come to terms, little by little
With things that seem so enourmous at the time that we see no way beyond them...

To CRY is not to give in, but to deal with what we must deal
And so to release our hearts from grief that binds us so deeply
That it might otherwise paralyse and hold us still -
Never to go onward as we should and must

Therefore cry, and cry well.
For if it were not meant to be done -
We could not do it....


~Wolf

 

i want to thank eveyone for their kind words. it helps. and yes i have cried, and will cry more. it is only natural and so helpful. She was a wonderful person, who helped many. I do believe she has gone on to a much better place. She is with my dad. He left us almost 3 years ago. Very suddenly. In the same hospitol, in the room next to the one she was in. She missed him soo much, now they are together forever.
Thanks
Matt

 

My condolences for your mom.
I know how you feel; my mom died last month, suddenly.
She always cared for us and took good care of us, as we have done for her.
We will miss her and know she is at peace as is your mother too.

 

Sorry to hear that. I am blessed to still have both parents and I can't even think about losing one of them.

 

I am glad you were able to say goodbye to your mother. I am writing this to just say that we only get the one chance to do that and if you aren't there you will regret it for your life.
jor

 

Very sorry for your loss..Our thoughts are with you..