I had a chance to move out with a friend a 6 months ago...but that was when things were good. It was only this bad twice or three times a year. Now its like a week straight each month. I don't have any option at this point to move out. Where I live with my parents now is prime location for me. I only have to drive 15 to 20 mins to work and 30-40 on bad winter days. The town I work in doesnt have much to choose from. And I simply can't afford it right now. The only reason I havn't had to borrow money from my parents between paycheck in a while is because I sold my car. Between gas, food, insurance, cell phone and car pymts I am broke minus the money I got from selling my car. Every time I get ahead I fall back behind. So I am hoping to keep saving money in addition to the amount from the car.
I know its silly but I like to "stick" with guide lines on my life... and so far I have managed in the past 6 months to get 2 of my goals met. The 3rd and 4th is a major one and will take time. That is another reason why I am trying to save money. And living at home is the only way that I can save up enough money to do it.
And I deep down really dont want to run away from the problem. He is my dad...and I want to have a good relationship with him. I don't want to end up like my brother. He got married at 19 and moved out. Dad doesnt really speak to him. Its like he has forgotten him. I guess I am at least getting "ignored" daily.
I believe my great grandmother now, she said that the family is cursed. I now know what she ment by that. The men are all this way and dad's whole side is this way. Thats why I refuse to see them unless they come to our house and I don't have an excuse to not be there. I just dont want to have that kind of relationship with my dad.
He did cosign for me on my loan. and he stood up for me when I had a memeber of the family on his side come to our house screaming yelling at me. The woman went crazy and totally just was pure evil to me. Dad had to chase her and her husband off our property. I totally got taken advantage of in that situation. But its like he thinks he only has to be there for all of us on the major things. And I want him there all the time. Like taking a walk and talking, or just be willing to stop at the stores I want to shop at. Or respecting me enough not to come and change the channel of what I am watching.

 

Prayer is a very powerful tool that can be used in any situation! My prayers are flowing your way in hopes God will provide a way out of this issue. Stay strong my friend, do not let harm on yourself or mother but be "nice" until you have the ability to change the circumstances.

 

I am not trying to be funny, but, it sounds as if he is going through a monthly cycle.
There is some research on the subject that seems to fit.

Some have a condition called cyclothymia, which causes significant changes in mood. And untreated bipolar disorder leads to extremes so severe that they can ruin your life. If your moods impair your ability to work, cause you to be inconsistent with your family, or rob you of joy, try therapy, and possibly medication.

Symptoms

Dysthymic phase
Symptoms of the dysthymic phase include difficulty making decisions, problems concentrating, poor memory recall, guilt, self-criticism, low self-esteem, pessimism, self-destructive thinking, continuously feeling sad, apathy, hopelessness, helplessness, irritability, quick temper, lack of motivation, social withdrawal, appetite change, lack of sexual desire, self-neglect, fatigue, and insomnia.<sup id="cite_ref-2" class="reference">[3]</sup>


There is a psychotherapist who is expounding on the theory;
First link goes to a transcript of an interview with psychotherapist Jed Diamond.
Irritable Male Syndrome
Jed Diamond - The Irritable Male Syndrome