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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:15 PM
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Valentine's Day help

Ok guys I'm 19 have this female friend I'm falling head over heals for. The only thing is she is playing the hard to get. The fact that we don't like that close is another small problem. I know she likes me but not sure how much. We talk all the time and hang out when we are both not working. I want to make a move in showing her I care about her and want to be more then just friends. I know she has some trust in me because she as sat around a fire and drank with me and a few older friends. (her first time for drinking) I know her friend talk about her in sexual ways both male and female. I don't want her to think im just another guy trying to get in her pants.

So I was hoping some of you older guys could help me out? Anything would be good. She is a farm girl and lives 35 acres. She works on my papas horse farm and loves horse.
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:22 PM
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Your best move , if you think she is interested in you , is to let her make the moves . if she doesn't , you may have to , or she is not into you...all you can do is put your best foot forward , & be real with it...If you have anything in common, it will help..If you really feel good about this one , you will be miles ahead ,by making her feel good about herself ....(again, you have to believe it)

Confidence is everything , but its got to be real
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:25 PM
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How old is this girl? There's an excellent chance she has no idea what she wants.
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:32 PM
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How old is this girl? There's an excellent chance she has no idea what she wants.
She will be 18 in March. I think she knows what she wants.
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:35 PM
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She will be 18 in March. I think she knows what she wants.
Not at 18 ......

Right now , she just wants to be happy...
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:38 PM
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Not at 18 ......

Right now , she just wants to be happy...
This is true! Doesn't everyone?
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:43 PM
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Originally Posted by dougbrown
This is true! Doesn't everyone?
When you are older , other things become more important .. look to the future ,, it will be a good thing ...
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 06:46 PM
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Remember she works for your dad too....that could lead to some uncomfortable situations all the way around.
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 07:08 PM
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Remember she works for your dad too....that could lead to some uncomfortable situations all the way around.
My dad writes her check that it. She is on her own and my father knows that nothing would change if we where going out. I work on the same property as her at the same time. We both know we have jobs to do. I don't see any problems there.
 
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Old Feb 1, 2010 | 09:38 PM
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You can start by taking her out to dinner on Valentines day.
I wouldn't get her flowers , candy, a card, or the big fluffy stuffed bear. Those are reserved for after you're a couple.
 
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Old Feb 2, 2010 | 02:08 AM
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Dinner and a movie ... Make sure she picks out the movie ...
 
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Old Feb 2, 2010 | 11:08 AM
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She will be 18 in March. I think she knows what she wants.
HAHA

Dude, just a forewarning- my brother is dating a girl, they started dating when she was 18, she's now 19 (he's 26- ridiculous), but anyway, that girl has been flakier than a Pillsbury biscuit.

She broke up with him, started dating another guy IMMEDIATELY afterward, moved in with this guy (at his parent's house no less), waffled all over the place, and now is supposedly back with my brother, and all this happened over the course of a year or so. I don't really like her now and I think my brother is an idiot for letting her string him all over the place.

Like I said, just a friendly warning. At 18 she has nooooooo idea what she wants.
 
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Old Feb 2, 2010 | 11:56 AM
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If it's meant to happen, it will happen... Don't force the issue and just let things run their own course...

I knew this gal who decided she was interested in me and tried to get my attention - She threw out every signal she could think of to let me know she was interested, but I was just too damned dense to pick up on those signals lol - She eventually had to force me off the road at a freeway exit before I realized "Oh, yeah..."

We've been married 18-years now...

Keep your eyes and ears open - watch for signals of whether she's interested or not...
 
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So I was hoping some of you older guys could help me out? Anything would be good. She is a farm girl and lives 35 acres. She works on my papas horse farm and loves horse.
Just ask her out to a movie. Or for a piece of pie. Something simple and at a reasonably early hour. I think V-day stuff would be premature. You are just aquaintances at this point. You are not dating. You could give her a box of the V-day heart thingies, but just as friends. Start as friends, that's what the movie is for, and if you both have fun then consider moving forward.

This seems so simple, but those of us who have been attached for a long time tend to forget the stress we felt back then.
 
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Old Feb 2, 2010 | 02:18 PM
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Best V-day advice? Keep the standards low. They always want more and more and more...

And, if you're not a "couple", just avoid anything on V-day altogether.

At not-quite-18, chances are she will change her mind about what she wants, and at 19, chances are you will, too.

Jason
 
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