Makes Me Sick
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Makes Me Sick
Ok here is the deal:
My grandfather passed on a month ago and his wife (not my step grandma) offered his truck to all of my uncles for $1,600 which they declined but one of my uncles told her I was very interested and she told him I would have to give her a little time because she needed it. I called her yesterday (cash in hand) I told her I was ready whenever she was to buy the truck, I sold it she replied. This really makes me mad due to a deal we had in the works. Luckily she sold it to a very good family friend and he said he would sell it for what he bought it for ($3,200). I do not blame this guy nor do I have hard feelings tward him. This truck is in imaculate condition inside and out. He loved washing and working on this truck it was brand new inside and out. He actually died at the car wash washing it. I loved this truck as did he and for her to do this to me is just the lowest blow i could receive. What should I do. I will end up with this truck!
My grandfather passed on a month ago and his wife (not my step grandma) offered his truck to all of my uncles for $1,600 which they declined but one of my uncles told her I was very interested and she told him I would have to give her a little time because she needed it. I called her yesterday (cash in hand) I told her I was ready whenever she was to buy the truck, I sold it she replied. This really makes me mad due to a deal we had in the works. Luckily she sold it to a very good family friend and he said he would sell it for what he bought it for ($3,200). I do not blame this guy nor do I have hard feelings tward him. This truck is in imaculate condition inside and out. He loved washing and working on this truck it was brand new inside and out. He actually died at the car wash washing it. I loved this truck as did he and for her to do this to me is just the lowest blow i could receive. What should I do. I will end up with this truck!
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well when people lose there loved ones the some times speak too quickly-she may have reconsidered the price and I am sure she needs the money? so it is what it is-come up with the extra cash or lose it?? it sounds harsh but at my age I have seen parents-and sisters go through the same ordeal-sorry how it turned out-good luck!! 
hope ya get it if you really want it!!!
hope ya get it if you really want it!!!
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It sounds like you were not the one to speak to her directly,, one of your uncles mentioned you wanted the truck. Well, if that is so, you don't really know how the conversation went. Second and third hand information can be delivered with many inaccuracies. I'm sure that there was a miscommunication somewhere along the line...
Either she didn't choose to give you the same offer, or she didn't realize that you would really be able to come up with the cash, or the funeral cost WAY more than expected and she needed more cash that she initially realized and when a higher offer came along, she grabbed it.
Grief does some funny things to people. And, unfortunately, people are so consummed with it, that they tend to forget about other people's needs and feelings. I would let it wash under the bridge. I'm sure it was not an intentional slam at you, and like you said, you will get the truck,, So let bygones be bygones.
Either she didn't choose to give you the same offer, or she didn't realize that you would really be able to come up with the cash, or the funeral cost WAY more than expected and she needed more cash that she initially realized and when a higher offer came along, she grabbed it.
Grief does some funny things to people. And, unfortunately, people are so consummed with it, that they tend to forget about other people's needs and feelings. I would let it wash under the bridge. I'm sure it was not an intentional slam at you, and like you said, you will get the truck,, So let bygones be bygones.
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This lady made it a point to keep us from him when she could. When ever they stopped by they were always in a hurry because SHE needed to get home. For instance the last time I saw him she was in a hurry because she had rolls rising at home. When ever they were around his family she was always bugging him to go home. Hell she didn't even reconize us when she saw us away from him. I truely believe she did this on purpose. She didn't need the money they were "well off" and retired. Even if she did reconsider the price SHE COULD HAVE TOLD ME!
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You gotta let it go.Don't harbor any grudges. They eat at your insides, and you have much of life ahead to start getting bitter.Be glad that the friend will sell it to you, if you really want to buy it. The end result is the same.
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Grudges, especially in family situations, are not worth it. I have seen it a few times, and not worth the energy.
Buy the truck back from the friend, that will be your only silent revenge!
Then enjoy the truck, and remember Grandpa!
Buy the truck back from the friend, that will be your only silent revenge!
Then enjoy the truck, and remember Grandpa!
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Sounds like you don't like her. Since she sold it to someone else she can't even make any demands on the purchase now because your agreement is with the new owner, not her. Pay the money and buy the truck quick before she has any say. Consider it money well spent to never have to see her again.
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I don't plan on ever seeing her again that is a good thing. I want to make it clear that I have never liked her this just magnifies it by 1000. The good thing is the new owner dislikes her as well he just bought it to keep it away from non family that wouldn't appreciate it like we would. So she will not have a say in the resale. I plan on buying it in August when my truck is paid off. He will keep it in pristene condition so I am not worried.
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Buy the truck, honor your Grandfather, and remember how lucky you were to have him, and how lucky you are to have a friend that will sell it to you for what he bought it for! A grudge will eat you alive; write her off and remember your Grandfather as I am certain you will whenever you drive his truck. Good luck and enjoy your ride!! He would be glad you have his truck................
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its strange but i have come across many instances of when there is a death in the family of someone like a parent or grandparent, there is a splintering of the whole family, as if many times the one thing keeping everyone together was that one person.
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I have seen some similar circumstances to yours in the last year.
My own grandfather died a year ago - fortunately that went OK other than the fact I got left out of the will (because I didn't communicate with him since 1990 - LONG STORY) But I did have to clean up his place and maintain it until it sold. At least I got a truck, generator, and some tools out of it.
But a friend of mines grandpa - WHOA.
Anyway, week after he dies his girlfriend goes back into the house to take "her things" (which was not much) and makes off with about 1/2 to 3/4 of the house's contents. Made off with his clothes, lots of EXPENSIVE furniture, woodworking tools, antiques, and a number of other small sentimental items that didn't even belong to her - she said he "promised them to her" - YEAH RIGHT. They even took the motor home. Boy are the kids mad. They might try legal means but it looks like an uphill battle at best.
Fortunately they left the truck to my friend (if he wants it) and it is in good shape.
When it comes to stuff like this - don't trust ANYBODY!
My own grandfather died a year ago - fortunately that went OK other than the fact I got left out of the will (because I didn't communicate with him since 1990 - LONG STORY) But I did have to clean up his place and maintain it until it sold. At least I got a truck, generator, and some tools out of it.
But a friend of mines grandpa - WHOA.
Anyway, week after he dies his girlfriend goes back into the house to take "her things" (which was not much) and makes off with about 1/2 to 3/4 of the house's contents. Made off with his clothes, lots of EXPENSIVE furniture, woodworking tools, antiques, and a number of other small sentimental items that didn't even belong to her - she said he "promised them to her" - YEAH RIGHT. They even took the motor home. Boy are the kids mad. They might try legal means but it looks like an uphill battle at best.
Fortunately they left the truck to my friend (if he wants it) and it is in good shape.
When it comes to stuff like this - don't trust ANYBODY!
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This is why people should have wills. Make your intentions known... if they get pissed off at you so what... you're not around to hear it. 
It the best way to protect the one's you love and its neglect to leave them having to deal with crap like this when its a time they need the worry the least. If you don't have a will and an advance directive, get it done!
It the best way to protect the one's you love and its neglect to leave them having to deal with crap like this when its a time they need the worry the least. If you don't have a will and an advance directive, get it done!
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Well, at least it didn't end up like my grandfather's former 82 F-100. I had spent numerous hours on that truck when my grandfather let me borrow it doing various little repairs here and there. One day I was going to offer to buy it from him since it spent most of its time parked over at an Aunt's house and he seldom ever used it except as an extra car given his age. I call him up and find out he's given it away to one of one of my other Aunt's husband, who had just wrecked his car, who at the time hardly anyone in the family had seen in over a year. Well, long story short, after having it for about 4-5 months, he manages to back into one of my other uncle's airplanes (A Cherokee 235...kind of hard to miss!) and then totals it out shortly thereafter. So at least take comfort that the truck is in somewhat responsible hands rather than being handed off to someone who hasn't really done a responsible thing in his entire life.