What do I do?
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Laughing Gas
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From: Maine
What do I do?
I have a tough choice to make in the very near future. I love my current job but I have to work weekends and holidays and the occassional night shift. My family doesn't really seem to care but I do because my wife works banker's hours. There is a job opening that I am applying for. I don't think I will like the job as much but it is Monday-Friday 8-5 with weekends and holidays off. I will have the same hours as my wife and can even ride to work together as the 2 workplaces are only about 1 mile apart. My question is do I take a job that I may not like as much and have more time with my family or do I keep my job that I love. Pay and benefits will be just about the same so that is not an issue. There will be less stress at this other job. Again, my family doesn't seem to care about my schedule now but I remember growing up that neither of my parents were around much because they both worked so much. I don't want to do the same to my kids but I work far less than either of my parents did.
Thanks for the input, ideas, experience, etc.
Thanks for the input, ideas, experience, etc.
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From: Hattiesburg, MS
In my opinion, I would take the new job.
If you are making the same money and working fewer hours, you are making more money. The family should come first, as the saying goes, there is no epitaph that says "I wish I spent more time at the office".
If you are making the same money and working fewer hours, you are making more money. The family should come first, as the saying goes, there is no epitaph that says "I wish I spent more time at the office".
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trust me, get the job that allows more time with your family, in a few years you will thank yourself.
when someone is at the end of their life, you will never hear them say "i wish i would have spent more time at work"
i specifically did what you did kind of, i turned down a high paying job because it required some traveling throughout the southeast. i got out of the military just so i don't have to go anywhere again. so i will rough it out now and be poor and go through college to do something that doesn't take me away from home.
when someone is at the end of their life, you will never hear them say "i wish i would have spent more time at work"
i specifically did what you did kind of, i turned down a high paying job because it required some traveling throughout the southeast. i got out of the military just so i don't have to go anywhere again. so i will rough it out now and be poor and go through college to do something that doesn't take me away from home.
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Laughing Gas
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From: Maine
I think you guys are right. My grandfather left the same career many years ago because he said that no one would ever put him down for spending more time with his family. At this point, it doesn't matter because I haven't even applied for the job yet let alone having it offered to me. I guess it is a good problem to have...having 2 jobs in front of me.
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Go for the new job!!! I spend half my time away from my family - I work six days (80 hours) in another state, then drive 600 miles to spend the next six (full) days at home with my wife and kids. I make GREAT money but am missing SO much at home. I'm "stuck"...not wanting to quit my job and go back home where I'd be lucky to make 25% of what I do now...
If you can afford it (and it sounds like you can)...take the new job that will give you more time with your family - that's time you cannot replace!
Scott
If you can afford it (and it sounds like you can)...take the new job that will give you more time with your family - that's time you cannot replace!
Scott
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Laughing Gas
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Obviously, it will ultimately come down to what I want. I truly enjoy my job as a police officer and the brotherhood in this line of work is very deep. I put my life in the hands of fellow officers everyday so the trust is very deep. However, the job as a Ford Parts Manager is sounding pretty good. I love Ford trucks, don't get me wrong, but the police work is what I love and what I thrive at and I don't think I will like the parts job as much as police wprk. It will be a very tough decision. I am going to apply for the parts manager job tomorrow. They may not even offer it to me so who knows. I am friends with the dealership owner so I have that on my side but who knows?
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From: in the adirondack mts
don't make it about the obvious. make it about what it will be down the road. if you are happy and your family are happy with the current job, stay. if you need to look youself in the eye 10 yrs down the road and missed the kids getting bigger, the wife getting farther, or as i went through, worse, then it will be a sore spot in your memory for as long as you live. don't take anything for granted. do everyday as if it might be the last. i know from where i speak, and regret alot. i hope you do ok no matter what you decide, but i say look at the long haul.
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From: La La Land
Momma wants to know that you'll come home safe tonight.
All cops wives worry, and it's really stressful on them.
You KNOW the divorce stats for cops, too.
You know what you gotta' do. Life ain't all about YOU any more.
Go be a dad.
Pop
All cops wives worry, and it's really stressful on them.
You KNOW the divorce stats for cops, too.
You know what you gotta' do. Life ain't all about YOU any more.
Go be a dad.
Pop
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I have always said that no matter what your job is...you better love it. My girlfriend is in home health as an RN and makes dang good money but the company she works for is.....well....I won't say it.......but she loves her job. She has been offered a job indoors with good pay but it amounts to a desk job.....which she doesn't care for.
At the same time, family is important also. Unless your wife expresses concerns of the dangers of your job and asks you to change, I would stay with what you love.....police work.
It's better to be happy in your work than have a job that you hate to go to everyday. I been there and done that.
At the same time, family is important also. Unless your wife expresses concerns of the dangers of your job and asks you to change, I would stay with what you love.....police work.
It's better to be happy in your work than have a job that you hate to go to everyday. I been there and done that.
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There's a saying something like; being apart makes being together so much better. If you take the new job, make sure you find a couple of hobbies so you and the wife don't end up staring at each other over the coffee table. Make the best of the time that you do have together.
I can't imagine being more happy than I am with my current job but I know full well what it is like to be less happy with a job and I would not want to go there.
I can't imagine being more happy than I am with my current job but I know full well what it is like to be less happy with a job and I would not want to go there.