Funny, I was thinking the same thing from the beginning of this thread. If the baby isnt yours, stay away, far away. As everyone else has stated, it is just plain wrong to break up a relationship whether or not the boyfriend can whoop your ***. Out of those choices I would go with the nerd, but than again I never limited any of my girlfriends to good looks. Good looks are no good if a woman looks good but stands in the front yard for hours at a time looking up yelling "airpayne, airpayne" at 25 years old. Good luck to you and no offense but you need to broaden your criteria and go back searching.

 

Now honestly, if we're going to be shallow about this.....

 

nerd, go nerd, $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

 

Which mail order service are you going through? We can find the pics for ourselves...

 

i am going to share with you a bit of wisdom that me father gave to me

he sadi "son, the secret to a happy life is dont get marrried and dont have kids"
he sadi this in front of my mother and she agreed. tehy are happy together but marriage is not the thing. and kids. jeez we are expensive. sure i imagine the first few years are great but just wait. being a teenager right now. i can tell you, we are jerks. me, id stay away from teh pregnant girl and the boyfriend. the ned makes money which can equal surgery?omg that sounds bad.i am a bad person.

 

sorryif it came off as me looking only at looks. Thats not really an issue with me. I am more for a person who can hold their own, make me laugh, and put me in my place when i need it, i knew all along that the pregnant girl was out of the picture i just wanted assurance. To be honest with you i may just be looking for a person to date because i don't want to be single. I think then best thing for me to do would be to enjoy life do what i do best and find a girl along the way. I dont want you to think down on me about the girl with a boyfriend either its more of an if it happened should i pursue it. And lastly dont judge me by the nerd comment. She is a great person and to be honest i really noticed her when she waited on me one day. We kinda talked and i hjad fun catching up on what she had been doing... And i truly want to go out eith her sometime. i just think that im afraid of gettign attached to someone because of the fact that i just got dumped 2 months ago by someone i loved with all my heart... I just needed advice.. thanks for the comments

 

There are worse things than a girl with a baby/baby on the way. I saw two girls that were 23+ when I was 18, and again when I was 20. I just wan't able to provide how I thought was needed, so we both decided to call it quits. There are worse things, it *could* be a good learning experience for you. If you really like the girl don't hold it against her that she possibly made a mistake. Pick the one that makes you happy, and I just had a pretty sorry break-up with a girl that had made alot of promises and said alot of serious things that just flew the koop after living together for a long while, and is out sleeping around now and it has been less than two weeks. I know exactly how you feel about being afraid to get attatched. Talking to other girls just doesn't seem right, especially after one said she wanted to get married and start a family with you. The worst part is, it exposed a weakness in me that I didn't know I had. Don't go by looks, go by what feels good, certain times there are too many strings attached, or one two many suitcases for baggage, but most of the time if you want they can be overcome.

 

Thanks. Thanks a lot. I think out of all the posts yours made the most sense. I guess its just that i keep hoping that katie will come back to me so im trying to find fault with all the women i meet or try to see. I just wish love was a little easier then it is.... I wish things always went the way the were first intended to go

 

From all my personal expierences, almost all beautiful women are nut cases and or mentally desturbed

 

Thanks. Thanks a lot. I think out of all the posts yours made the most sense. I guess its just that i keep hoping that katie will come back to me so im trying to find fault with all the women i meet or try to see. I just wish love was a little easier then it is.... I wish things always went the way the were first intended to go

Love isn't rational....... women aren't always either, come to think of it . The good news is, it'll hit you at the right time with the right woman when you least expect it. One of the few advantages in being an old guy- age gives you a certain perspective.

 

Now I'm no rocket surgeon when it comes to women, but I can assure you that the smartest of the best women have moments when they make absolutely no sense. I've been with one like that for pushing 3 years. Great girl all-around, but no woman is going to be steady in the brain.

If this were a poll, I'd vote for the ex-nerd. The good looking ones know they're good looking and use it for what it's worth. I don't think we want that. Most, not all, good looking women have a tendancy to looove the attention other guys give them, and take advantage.

Ryan

 

You don't want her back, if she is gone this long, you don't want it back, trust me. Women are worse than men in every way, especially this young generation. Overlook most faults in the new women, and find the things that will make them special and great to you.

 

Thanks. Thanks a lot. I think out of all the posts yours made the most sense. I guess its just that i keep hoping that katie will come back to me so im trying to find fault with all the women i meet or try to see. I just wish love was a little easier then it is.... I wish things always went the way the were first intended to go


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I hate to say it but: "you're trapped in your own mind"


IMO, You are "feeling" instead of "thinking" at this point.

Don't "Pick" any of these chics.

The best loves in life just happen and .....there is a best time for them to happen and ....I can assure you .....it's not before you turn about 24.

Most relationships happen for the wrong reason ...... Insecurity.

Relationships that break up when you are young are GOOD for you, they help you evolve, to learn and be more aware of what is really important.

Take it from me...you have all the time in the world to end up with the right person.

IMHO, that you STOP Hoping for this relationship to return or hope that you will find love .......while "you're on the rebound".

Just get on with your life and live for you..... not for someone else at your young age.


Believe it or not....Love will eventually "Find You" when you "AREN'T Looking".

Now being close enough to someone to participate in Chesterfield Rugby with, is another matter of which you will need to be honest with yourself about.

 

You guys are too late for me....

 

Sure...where were all of you experts 11 years ago???? I married the exnerd. Beautiful girl, good heart, good brain...she grew into her good looks. Discovered what she could do with them...the rest is history. I just got done with a 16 month seperation...divorce was finally final in May. STAY SINGLE. I don't want to be too crude here, but if you can finish the expression....treat them like postage stamps....