does it ever that you are riding the short bus ???

This week has just been bad


Everything form the relationship all the way to the truck.



I hit a deer on my truck last night, the U-joints in the 69 are not working out to well. and the list goes on.................



Why me why now ????



-Brandon-

 

Women and trucks are pretty close to one another. As long as you keep spending money on them, things ought to work out just fine.

Sorry to hear about the truck Brandon. I hate that when that happens. I had a '65 falcon back in high school and right after I spent many nights after school, doing body work and finally painting it, Some sophmore decides that she wanted to back into it one day after school while I was in wrestling practice.

Think positive and stay on the sunny side of life.

 

Easy there Brandon. All is not bad..............

You woke up on the right side of the grass?? Ok then.

Sorry about the deer.........I just about got my '67 totalled yesterday going home from work. Some "new" F150 decided HE wanted the space I was traveling in . I was going along at 60 mph, when he figured he was 'almost" past me enough to cut back in . After I wore the horn out, hit the brakes, swerved onto the berm....he just continued on his way like no one was around!! I came out around him and worn out my lungs through the rear slider . He just had this dumb look on his face, like HUH?

My bloodpressure is still up!

 

The truck is no big deal but i just got finished with my freakin grille.

Well now it is time to start on the second grille. damn i cant win for loosing.

It seems that i am loosing more now then ever.


maybe i need to try to get this short bus stopped



who knows what my happen if the wife leaves me.

Just to much to think about now. maybe i need to pick up a drinking habbit





-Brandon-

 

Hang in there B! Sorry to hear about everything. When it rains it pours! Drinking may help you forget but will not solve the problems. I drank to forget but it only made me think about things more. Go figure! The truck can be fixed easily. The relationship can be a little more complex. If she means the world to you try to work things out. Even if it means letting go of her for a while. Sometimes people need time to evaluate themselves and their life goals. Sometimes we become insecure about those goals based on what others have and do. Be strong and give her time if she needs it. I've been there before as many have. Divorce just sucks and the only winners in the end are the lawyers. Stay close to your family and friends for support. Let them know you need their help. Stay focused and work on your problems together. I really wish the very best for you both. I've seen to many of my friends go through this myself included. Women are hard to figure out sometimes....maybe there should be a forum. lol, G.

 

No, I really don't know what the problems are. I would like to offer some advice from my own hard learned lessons:

Break up the routine: Ignore the vehicles, spend major amounts of time with your wife. Let her know that you feel pretty beat up with eveything going on, then just let go. The vehicles never packed a suitcase for me, and they were still there when I got back to them. That fixes my mindset.

A couple gems from our Pastor:
"Couples who spend significant amounts of time comunicating tend to stay together."
And:
"Men and Women have different dispositions. You are like a frying pan, she is like fine china. You can take heat and abuse without breaking, but you wouldn't put that pan in front of someone at the dinner table. You would use the fine china for a pleasant setting."

So when she's gone to pieces and I see glimpses of her army training , I suck it up and listen for the things I can do differently. When the dust settles, she feels like the man she married really is her best friend. That helps her mindset.

Bummer about the truck Brandon. Deep breath-exhale, tomorrow is another day.

 

No matter how bad your problems seem, there is always someone in worse shape. Deal with it and move on.

 

booze+depression+frustration = mistakes

as for the truck. A friend of mine once quoted his father "Ain't nothing a checkbook won't fix". Even if money is tight, that might help you to see it's not a life-altering problem.

Hang in there, take some of the time you were wrenching and spend it with the misses instead.

Good luck!

greg

 

Well I kinda worked things out with the wife...( I hope) when we lived in SoCal..and I had the shop....the wife was getting pretty pissy at all the hours I spent there working on the race car,and the Boat, and ***** load of bikes....

So I started keeping the Fridge full of beer and wine,,and stuff the ladies liked to drink..and I told my Buddies if they wanted to use my shop ro work on there Projects..To bring a bottle.and something to throw on the BBQ and bring there wife or Girlfriend...and that worked out Great....

The Girls would sit in the shop and drink and watch us wrenching and Listening to Music... and they would make smartass comments on stupid stuff we would do...And they Got too be with there Partner..and party and Talk Lady talk..and dance if they wanted....Then in the Late aftrenoon I would fire up the grill..we would clean up the garage...And Party Hardy!! We did this allmost every Saturday and some Sundays..

Anyway it worked Out Great for me... I know first hand about keeping an even Playing field with the toys and the wife... It was a Hard lesson too learn with the first wife!! after we Divorced back in 82 I stayed single ...and Played the field for 12 years!!

And then I found Sandi...and I think she maybe a keeper?? LOL...

But Brandon your far from being alone!! Most Gearheads I know go thru this all the time...Its Just the life we lead.....

Russ

 

If it has t!ts or wheels it will give you trouble, usually at the worst possible moment! Hang in there it could be worse (if it gets worse it is not my fault!).

 

I'll tell you from personal experience, the alcohol will help you in the short term, but it can and will permanently destroy your relationship with your wife. I dealt with a lot of my nightmares and flashbacks after Iraq with Jim Beam. What ended up happening is that by the time I decided I needed help with my PTSD(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) I had to go through treatment for alcoholisim first. I nearly cost me my marrige. Work with her, work with a counsellor if need be, but please DO NOT become dependent on alcohol. You will lose.

 

By the way, things are better now. But you tend to get really nearsighted when going through rough times, and you can't see or believe that things will get better. They may get worse before they get better-but they WILL get better. It's been over a year now, the wife and I are really well, and I am able to devote time to my project car and my pickup now again. Like GTEX said, your wrenching will have to go hold for a bit so you can work on your relationship. It's worth it!-----Ryan

 

Well i have a up date............ I know that nothing like this can be fixed over night but i was watching this church channel on TV. I just was flipping and i heard this guy say if you are having trouble with your wife..... well the hunt was one, maybe a pill or a shot or something like that.... but nope the answer was time.

He said to date your wife even after you have been with her for twenty years. Let her know that she is still and always number one in your life.


...... hmmmmm good info with that. maybe i need to start going to church ???? i might get some more answers



-Brandon-

 

Aw the hands of God can work wonders....Dony be Shy about it..I go..not as often as I'd like..... Its a excellent Place to start..I couldnt think of a better place!! Amen Bro!!

Russ

 

Aw the hands of God can work wonders....Dony be Shy about it..I go..not as often as I'd like..... Its a excellent Place to start..I couldnt think of a better place!! Amen Bro!!

Russ