We have house guests staying with us right now, a 50something-year-old woman and her 23-year-old son. We have known them for almost ten years, she's a sweetheart, he's...well, a work in progress I guess would be a nice way to put it. They've just moved back here from Missouri and want to relocate up here from the Bay Area, where they lived before they moved to Missouri. They came up to visit 3 weeks ago and stayed, really sort of univited. They know they are welcome to come visit anytime, but this is beginning to get a little old. The son found a job locally (well, my bro-in-law found it for him) and was staying here while he worked. He and his mom started house-hunting, found one and were supposed to move in last Friday but the landlord put them off while he does a little more work on it. They started looking around some more yesterday but decided to wait for the first house this morning. Now they won't be moving in till the 3rd, I don't know if I can take it. The mom could stay here as long as she likes as far as I'm concerned, but the son...I couldn't stand him as a teenager, he's improved somewhat but still needs work. He's sarcastic and highly critical, so much so that he's already lost his job, and he's a slob. His crap is all over the house and the yard, I feel like I have to get his permission to use my bathroom, he's rearranged it all to suit him, when he takes a shower he knocks stuff off of the counter and just leaves it on the floor, he eats and drinks everything in sight (fortunately they are buying some of the food and sharing in the cooking) and when he parks in the drive he tosses his trash out of the truck onto the ground. (He doesn't even drive a Ford!) The TV is on all day and half the night (I usually only watch it a few hours in the evening) and he's even married with three small kids, all still waiting at his in-law's in the Bay Area. I can't wait for the 3rd! Merry Christmas...yeah, they'll be here for that too, I guess. Okay, I feel better now. -TD

 

Guest or not .... I would only tolerate so much of the kid's slobbishness. And no one comes into my house and sets it up for themself. I'd go into the bathroom and put everything of mine back where it belonged and let him know in no uncertain terms that he is a guest.. not an owner and that he WILL respect my property or he can find another place to stay. People who take advantage of others, like that kinda strike a raw nerve.

Good luck ... glad I'm not in your boots.

 

Yes, my mother-in-law has had an infestation for several weeks....it looks like they took their stuff and fired it into the house with a cannon. They will be leaving back to their newly remodeled but soon to be trashed again house and the next wave comes in....free-range children, and the parallel life group who are always in the corner fixing an entirely different meal, along with the smartest man in the world to look knowingly at you like you were pig scat.

Apostates all, why are they here to celebrate Christmas???

 

They sound more like leeches than guests!

 

AWESOME advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'd also tell him to pick up his trash like most people do. The fact that he's a guest does not require that you become his maid. As for the bathroom, if he makes a fuss over your rules, put a lock on the door. If he doesn't like the terms, he can go rent a honey bucket and do whatever he wants in there. And a man with a wife and three kids and not working .

 

Sorry Tigerdan
I feel for you.But at least there is a light at the end of the tunnel.The 3rd will be here in notime.And you are right,if this guy is a slob and isnt even going to be with his kids for Christmas,well then he really is a piece of something.Im not sure if it is work in progress though!

 

UPDATE: Our houseguests were out running around today while I savored some quality time at home...alone! When they came back, the son announced that he was going home to the little woman and bouncing rugrats for the week, to prepare for the move and spend some time with them (maybe there's hope for him yet!) so we just have the mom staying, and she's really a lot of fun. It was just the son that was bringing me down. So all's well, for now! -TD

 

See? There IS a G ..... er ... higher power.

 

I know how you feel.

My cousin , Her boy friend and their 3 kids are here & have been here a couple months now.

I was rather sick of them argueing & the whining children. They gave me good news today though. They are moving into there new place on the 1st.

 

Dick, are you trying to start a (GASP!) religious discussion? That would violate FTE guidelines! Bad, BAD moderator! -TD

 

Formatted above to be generically correct. How's that?

 

Oh, how PC of you! Personally, I don't much care. But you never know who's out there lurking in the walls, just waiting for a chance to leap out and start screaming about religion or politics! Look at all these nuts these days that don't even want us to use the word...(Looking around, whisper it)..Christmas! Anyway, Merry umm...Happy Holidays! -TD

 

Holidays is a derivative of "Holy Days" ...

So .. Happy End of the Year ... and all that same old lame sign stuff

 

Vistitors......in-laws........I cant even began to explain how I can relate.

 

I must be lucky then. No unwanted guests yet. At least in my house. But I have been forewarned. My wife says when we have a kid, my mother in law "will be staying with us for a couple weeks to get us settled in." Right. If anybody's staying with us to get us settled in, it's gonna be MY mom. Ha ha. Like that's gonna fly.

Back when I was a ... about 13 or 14, my grandma on my dad's side came to live with us for a while. Things went great until her and my mom got into it. I remember it like yesterday: me, my bro and sis, and my dad are watching tv. Mom and grandma in the kitchen being quiet. Then, all of a sudden, "RA RA RA RA WA WA WA WA SHADDAP YOU STUPID..." Grandma didn't stay much longer after that.