Anybody know the guy that had it all....and then....?

just curious, no reason I ask?



wonder if it will all fit in this trash bag?..........

 

He got a shot of penicillin.

 

I have a buddy that had it all the wife, huge house, nice cars, great job the works. But he got started hanging out with a meth crowd and now he stays wherever some will let him stay. What he has left of it he could proubly fit in a trash bag. i dont understand how thing get so out of control for people. I miss my old buddy.

 

Greg, you been drinking again buddy???

 

I have known alot of guys that had it all, The number #1 graduate of one of the finest lawyer schools in America, - METH was liivng in a abandon hotel with 20 cats last I heard. Several guys in my community that had more oil income per month than most of us will make in our lives- ALcohol and LSD (late 70's) One of them now in a mental hospital for killing his mother with a baseball bat. I knew a guy that had probaly $40-60 million dollars and he died of sucide- but the last probably 3-4 years of his life he wouldn't even flush the toilet because it cost money. That is in my own little po-dunk rural community. My grandfather was a famous military figure and I would go back to D.C. and spend some time in the summer. All the polititcians and upper military have messed up kids, One of the senator recently was defeated in the election Tuesday who has been a senator for like 30 years , has some of the most dysfunctional family members I have ever seen- poor people had everything all their life and still can't manage it. From what I seen the better off you supposively are , the worst you waste it (LIFE). Oh, and I remain silent on who any of the above people are. Then again I haven't won the lottery yet- who knows what i would do..

 

i saw a TV show about meth... apparently its a really crappy drug to get hooked on and nobody ever quits... it is just about the worst drug you could get involved in. turns you into a schitzophrenic and all your teeth fall out. then you stay up all night doing crazy stuff until you start shooting the stuff into your veins and you die of AIDS. just say no.

i don't know if he had it all but one of my friends from high school died of a heroin overdose a few years back. i used to work out with him. he could bench sets of 300 easy when i was trying to do 200. we'd work out a few times a week and fridays we all went to the same college bar. i remember we both tried to get the same girl. last time i saw her had slept with a lot of guys and asked me to score her some pot. i guess he had it all cuz i was secretly jealous he could get big so easy and i worked out and didn't get big. then a few years ago i heard he died.

makes you think how a few wrong turns can screw everything up. maybe missed a few big parties but never got seriously screwed up either. all i gotta do now is keep my head low until i pay my mortgage and get my retirement and everything will be OK

 

How could ya tell?

I've been off work for about 5 weeks and have 3 more coming. It's a reward for lasting 7 years at my employer. The wife is an overachiever super-woman big Shot Lawyer working at "The Firm". So, she's working about 75 hours a week, then she excersizes the rest of the time. In any case, I'm bored, lonely and reasonably well funded. I can see how people get in trouble in this situation. I've got a life most guys would love to have. But, sometimes I feel like I'm a few shots from throwing it all away. The marriage, the job, the house and all the toys (and I've got a few). The only thing I'd fight to keep...The Dog :-)

And, I don't really think it's a drinking thing so much as a boredom, mid-life crisis kinda thing. I think I'm refusing to grow up and it get's harder every year. Some people think I need some kids....there may be something to that. But, it seems like I ought to be content myself before making that commitment.

My apologies for the pity party.I just figured somebody's been through something similar.....


BTW, I have never even smoked Pot, much less any of the other recreational drugs....

 

sounds like its time to get a project truck/car. It kept me going when things got rough. but thats just how i am too. the going get rough and i get reading. I have so many automotive textbooks references and manulas i have a shelf dedicated to them.

 

I think we all feel at one time or another like throwing it all away. Not necessary by being a drunk, using drugs, or killing ourselves. But, sometimes it is like, is this All? What if ?? And all that other BS. In fact even when we have it ****ty, their is someone alot worst / as well as someone that has the world. I can honesty say I would rather have my life than alot of people that "have it made". ALot of them are really shallow people, uptight and I think don't enjoy the simple things in life. Watch wifeswapping, that show shows me every week that although my last ex was bad- atleast she had some good qualities. And I am certain they could say the same. Life will humble almost all of us at one time or another, I know it has me.

 

I never had much, but I used to drink, smoke weed, and meth, and at one point while I thought my life was close to ending, I gave it all to Jesus, I know were noy supposed to get all preachy on here, so I won't, but that is what changed my life, knowing there is more to life than all these thing's.
God is real, and he is there, he proved that by sending his Son, we were all made with a desire inside and I have tried to fill it with everything else, but God was the only thing that satisfies that hunger.
Now I am clean, and God has given me meaning and purpose in life.
I hope this help's out.

 

Another project? check my gallery for the 67 project that's made a lot of progress but still plenty to do...it's been a huge project.

 

I know how you feel, boss. I'm kind of in that situation myself.
I've been waiting to go into the Army, tho I've been a Reservist for over a year and a half. I found out real quick after I graduated HS and left my job as a house fixer-upper that employers don't think too much of a kid straight out of high school who's also an Army Reservist. People will tell you that employers like to see that, but they don't want to hire it. To them it's one person that's gone at least one weekend a month and, especially right now, could be gone for years before coming back and then they need their job back. Employers see you as a liability.
I've been able to keep myself busy for a little bit, odd jobs around town, but I would not have minded having a full-time job to occupy my time.

Yeah, at first it's great not having to wake up and go to work, but after a while it gets old.

I've only got 2 more months to go before I go Active Duty and leave Victoria behind for good, but I've been waiting for 5 months already and each day gets longer.

But just hang in there bud, it's gonna get better.

Greg

 

Hey Gtex:

It's called by some an existential crisis...or crisis of existence. Usually brought on by a) a concious or unconcious sense of ones impending mortality, and/or b) a sense of unfulfillment from a life of too much "me"...which is the way we're taught to be in this consumerist individualistic society. It's the futility of "He who dies with the most toys wins" mentality. The sad thing is that many of the folks with that bumper sticker don't get the irony.

That's why some suggest having kids, because they know that to raise them right you have to devote a good chunk of your self for the rest of your life to the kids/family. But you are very wise to recognize that kids are not an answer to an unfulfilled life/marriage.

For some, turning to religion helps for similar reasons. By dedicating yourself to a higher authority/purpose, you "get outside yourself".

If religion isn't your bag, try volunteering at a seniors home to visit or read, or a soup kitchen, or teach reading to kids or adult learners. Join the "Big Brother program" and involve the kid in your projects.

See if there's a non profit org with a mission you believe in that could hire/utilize your skills. There's kind of a degree of separation from the works, but it adds more meaning than just pleasing stockholders or partners.

Doing something for someone other than yourself (to achieve the highest life fulfillment) is called for by most of the world's major religions and philosophys...there must be something to it.

As an asidem, my psychotherapist wife makes oodles of dough off the existential crisis of many a modern "professional" or their spouse. But many of them are REALLY glad they took the time for the self examination.

Good Luck.

Erik

 

I know the boredom feeling. That's my life right now, though I'm divorced. Even when I was married I was bored all the time because my ex-wife insisted on practically living at her parent's house. Though unlike you, I was bored, lonely, and broke. My ex- refused to work, and I didn't make squat.

 

Gtex,
Since you've already got a project truck, maybe something a little different like helping to build house with Habitat for Humanity, or helping to build an orphanage, or something like that.
I know a guy in Fabens, TX (near El Paso) who could use some help with building one.

You can get a lot of satisfaction out of helping people with your hands and your skills.