We are having the worst time with my 3 year old. He will go potty with #1 but no luck with # 2.

We had started to make a little headway. He started to hold it. He will go days without bm.
Found out his teacher at day care told him she would get mad if he #2 in his diaper. Now we have to start all over again.
He have to go so bad, the moment he falls to sleep he'll go.
Help please.

 

Sounds as if the teacher might have created a big problem for you.You might want to seek profesional advice unless someone on here is qualified to help you.I would file a complaint with the daycare supervisor as soon as possible.You may not be the only parents having this problem.When these problems become physiological,they can be very hard to correct.you will no doubt get a lot of home remedies from people but be careful how you treats this.Remember,there is a big difference between physical and mental treatment dealing with this.I suggest seeking professional help.The sooner the better.good luck

 

We had my son trained in about a week. The thing that really worked for us was to stop putting him in diapers or pullups. Right to 'big boy' underwear. It's more uncomfortable for him when he did have accidents. As far as BM goes. My son had ONE accident. When he did, I took him into the bathroom and cleaned him up. I then gave him a wipe and told him to clean up his underpants. The look of horror when he understood that he was going to have to touch it! I laid the wipe on the BM and then had to force his hand to pick it up and drop it in the toilet. I can't say if this will work for everyone or not, but it worked for me, so maybe it's worth a shot.

The other thing you might try to do (and I know that sometimes it's really difficult) is to stay calm when he does have an accident. If the teacher is getting mad at him, maybe you and your wife need to have a conversation with him/her and let them know that you don't appreciate that they are hindering your training efforts.

My son is big into counting everything, so when he did go, me made a little game of counting the plops. Every time he goes now, he tries to break his record. My wife also found some stickers and a chart somewhere that we hung by the toilet (we didn't use a potty - we heard that they can become attached to that and not want to transition to the toilet). It was a pie chart and each section was something that needed to be done at the toilet, lifting the lid, #1, #2, washing hands, etc...). Everytime that he did one of those things, he got to put a sticker on the chart.

Sorry about the randomness of this post, but I kept remembering things...He will get there - he just needs a little help! Keep at it. You'll get there too!

Good luck!

Matt

 

Has anyone ever told him that there is a monster in the potty?

I knew a little guy that had that said to him, boy what a thing to say to a toddler.

 

...we never pushed it, the logic being that ya never see a kid wearing diapers in kindegarten, they both trained in about a week at about 3 1/2 yr old. Every kid is different and most of the time its a matter of physical developement...logic and reason doesnt necessarily have any thing to do with it...

 

My first son was trained in about a week at age 2. My second son took forever, and he was almost 4 before he got it all figured out. We tried everything from rewards to punishment, but nothing worked. Then one day he just started going on his own. I really dont know what happened, but he figured it out. I know its frustrating, but trust me he will get it.

 

> Found out his teacher at day care told him she would get mad
> if he #2 in his diaper

This is why my kids are not in day care. The monster is not in the toilet, it is in day care.

He is only three years old, some kids learn early, some late. I would say, just let him play pee pee on a play toilet every hour or so. When he goes #2, reward him with something he did not expect. Clap in joy and rub his head, after he has done it a couple of times, quit making a big deal of it, but give quiet approval, hug him and tell him what a big boy he is.

Put him on the play toilet (it is more comfy) after a big meal and play with him. Maybe with running water from a bath in the back ground. Help him relax and go and take this pressure off him. If he goes in his pants or at night, give neither a positive or negative reaction. Tell him even adults have accidents in their pants. Give positive reactions whenever there is a success on the toilet.

 

After thinking it would never happen, my 3/12 year old just trained himself pretty much.

At first, things are on and off anyway, not 100% complicance with the adults ideas.

We still occasionally use diapers if we notice he is missing an oppurtunity and might have trouble in bed or on a trip outside the house.

Take the pressure off and relax- it will happen one way or another.

 

Strip him down, duck tape him to the wall, hose off when needed.

 

LOL Peppy.

Look at it in their view. Potty doesn't hurt, but here comes this thing that is making me have cramps. That's what our boy went through. He would hold it so long, he'd cramp. Then, he'd cry because of the pain.

After a heavy meal, you might want to massage his stomach, to stimulate a bm. You could also give him a magazine in their to read. Just help him relax. Tell him as soon as you go #2, you can wear big boy pants (undies).

 

You could also give him a magazine in their to read.

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ROFLOL.

Get the child a copy of : Better 1's & 2's.

 

I couldn't agree more.

Ever heard people use the saying.... "He's So ****." or 'He's SO **** retentive!" ??? This situation is where those sayings originate from.

AR is a CONTROL issue! Like the reader above states, NOT treated early, this WILL cause bigger problems down the road. You don't want him turning into a Control Freak. (we hope!)

Talk with a Professional ASAP.

Good Luck.

 

Kids learn by watching the parents and the lead by example potty training method isn't used much. Fortunately, we didn't need to use it on any of the kids, because I'm pretty tuned in to most of the attention getting tricks.

My youngest son was on a coloscemy(sp?) bag the first 6 months of his life. The first BM he had was quite a shocker for him.... He's 8 now and I'm waiting for the right time to tell him about Dennis's toilet monsters.

 

its just pooping and peeing they will get it when they are ready(at least i'm hoping i have a 2 1/2 year old and a 6 month old)

 

One of the parenting magazines that my wife gets comes with a sesame street magazine for the kids. My son has all of the back issues right next to the can, so he can read just like mommy and daddy do.