Need some serious help, guys...
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man. if i remember right your only around my age? 22 or so right? personally id give it just a few extra years. youd be suprised at how people can change in even just a few months. has SHE mentioned that she wants to be married? sometimes the women arent ready to be married. either way, i wish you the best of luck whatever you decide. dont fall for the 3 month salary B.S. you talk her up to be a great person, any great woman wouldnt *expect* you to put out that much cash.
my favorite marriage line- in "Old School" when "Frank the Tank" and his fiance are at the alter getting married and Vince Vaughn says " way to go, youve chosen one vagina for the rest of your life"
sorry just had to through that in.
my favorite marriage line- in "Old School" when "Frank the Tank" and his fiance are at the alter getting married and Vince Vaughn says " way to go, youve chosen one vagina for the rest of your life"
sorry just had to through that in.
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HAHAHAHAHA! <== really!
But on reading my post back just now to myself, I don't know if I was referring to myself or the Son (from a previous marriage of hers) that is now 17 and so desparetly shows the lack of fatherly influence in his life.
I think, him.
I am well aware (now) of the bed I made myself. I am also man enough to face my mistakes and deal with the consiquences eye to eye. My life is not runined. I still have hope. And, an awareness of my ignorance that I never had before.
My boy can't get back what he never had in the first place; a wise Father.
. . .
But on reading my post back just now to myself, I don't know if I was referring to myself or the Son (from a previous marriage of hers) that is now 17 and so desparetly shows the lack of fatherly influence in his life.
I think, him.
I am well aware (now) of the bed I made myself. I am also man enough to face my mistakes and deal with the consiquences eye to eye. My life is not runined. I still have hope. And, an awareness of my ignorance that I never had before.
My boy can't get back what he never had in the first place; a wise Father.
. . .
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From: Kalispell, Mt.
My wife was just as happy getting a plain gold band on our wedding day. We both decided that was what we wanted long before the marriage. A big diamond ring set is really spendy. You can always get her one later in life if and when you can afford it. They both mean the same thing.
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Find a jewelry store that specializes in antique jewelry. These places go to a lot of auctions/ estate sales; you can buy a BEAUTIFUL ring for a fraction of what you'd pay at a conventional jeweler. And, chances are, she'll be far more impressed with your good taste in purchasing something truly special and unique (and not some run-of-the-mill, assembly-line ring). There's a great one on Cape Cod called September Morn. Don't know if they have a website, but Ronnie, the lady that owns it, is a great person. I've shopped there several times and she's very reputable.
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Originally posted by Fordlover1951
My wife was just as happy getting a plain gold band on our wedding day. We both decided that was what we wanted long before the marriage. A big diamond ring set is really spendy. You can always get her one later in life if and when you can afford it. They both mean the same thing.
My wife was just as happy getting a plain gold band on our wedding day. We both decided that was what we wanted long before the marriage. A big diamond ring set is really spendy. You can always get her one later in life if and when you can afford it. They both mean the same thing.
isn't that the diamond one or is that the silver one
hum.........???
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Re: Need some serious help, guys...
Originally posted by BigMattXXL
She is my best friend in the whole entire world.
She is my best friend in the whole entire world.
As has been said: See what she wants. Do the ring thing together after you fall on bended knee with a cigar band or twine.
I fell on bended knee with one chocolate in each hand. One was sweet and one was semi-sweet. I told her life was bittersweet, but with me, there would always be chocolate.
Good on you, man. Follow your gut feeling.
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Originally posted by BuiltToughF250
man. if i remember right your only around my age? 22 or so right? personally id give it just a few extra years.
man. if i remember right your only around my age? 22 or so right? personally id give it just a few extra years.
Keep in mind, this is the woman that kept my attention when I was 16,17,18,19,20, and now 21 years old.
If I haven't had any regrets yet, I doubt I will!
We've openly discussed it, and we're planning on getting married, it's just that we're both in school and so busy. However, I think I'd like to propose to her now.
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From: N. Florida - The "No 4x4
Quote:
"If I haven't had any regrets yet, I doubt I will!
We've openly discussed it, and we're planning on getting married, it's just that we're both in school and so busy. However, I think I'd like to propose to her now. "
Then look her square in the eyeball(s) and doooooo it!
But . . .
it sounds like right now both of your focus is on school. That will not work if you do as you have said you would like to do:
Make it clear to her there is NOTHING and NO ONE more important to you than her.
There will be choices that have to be made in pursuit of your collegiate education that can not be made wisely without putting THAT first.
Do not allow BOTH OF YOUR dreams and goals to make a liar out of either of you, Big Matt.
You have some bigger, and harder, choices to make than you are currently recognizing . . . I fear.
FWIW and IMHO - nothing more.
"If I haven't had any regrets yet, I doubt I will!
We've openly discussed it, and we're planning on getting married, it's just that we're both in school and so busy. However, I think I'd like to propose to her now. "
Then look her square in the eyeball(s) and doooooo it!
But . . .
it sounds like right now both of your focus is on school. That will not work if you do as you have said you would like to do:
Make it clear to her there is NOTHING and NO ONE more important to you than her.
There will be choices that have to be made in pursuit of your collegiate education that can not be made wisely without putting THAT first.
Do not allow BOTH OF YOUR dreams and goals to make a liar out of either of you, Big Matt.
You have some bigger, and harder, choices to make than you are currently recognizing . . . I fear.
FWIW and IMHO - nothing more.
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From: inver grove heights MN
maybe if you propose on Christmas day? make it a little extra special!
i just have to laugh at Ctfuzzy's post... quote- "Then look her square in the eyeball(s) and doooooo it!"
few people feel the need to put (s) after eyeball, Fuzzy seems to be one of them! no offense meant here Fuzzy- i happen to be "impaired" in my right eye beyond surgery... i can see just enough to get by with it i guess.
back to the real matter at hand. Matt. good luck, there are a few people yet in this world that can make a marriage last. and for the rest theres always daytime talk shows. i dont think ill see you on TV though. like Nike says, just do it.
i just have to laugh at Ctfuzzy's post... quote- "Then look her square in the eyeball(s) and doooooo it!"
few people feel the need to put (s) after eyeball, Fuzzy seems to be one of them! no offense meant here Fuzzy- i happen to be "impaired" in my right eye beyond surgery... i can see just enough to get by with it i guess.
back to the real matter at hand. Matt. good luck, there are a few people yet in this world that can make a marriage last. and for the rest theres always daytime talk shows. i dont think ill see you on TV though. like Nike says, just do it.
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Matt, im not married, or even with anyone, and im 23 so take this as what its worth. Go ahead and propose to her on Christmas day with whatever u can. But the main thing is, dont get married until after college is over with. As far as the ring, dont spend 3 months salary on a ring, thats BS. Anyway, thats my .01 cent, good luck and congrats on the decision, whatever it may be.
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Fuzz- Thanks for the thoughts. I really think it's time, though - we have an understanding about finishing school. My plan is to enter the military through a direct-comission officer program (I've already got that lined up, so no worries 
) Originally, we planned on getting married after I came back from basic training (goes for about 10 weeks once I have my degree) and before I went to the long-term training (6 months).
So my schedule looked like this:
school
graduate
officer school basic (10 weeks)
wedding
officer school advanced (6 months - Quantico ,VA - only a 2 hr drive from home, so I could visit on the weekends)
honeymoon
I get assigned, and we both move.
But I'm ready to ask the question now. I'm confident it will work out for the best.
XXL
) Originally, we planned on getting married after I came back from basic training (goes for about 10 weeks once I have my degree) and before I went to the long-term training (6 months). So my schedule looked like this:
school
graduate
officer school basic (10 weeks)
wedding
officer school advanced (6 months - Quantico ,VA - only a 2 hr drive from home, so I could visit on the weekends)
honeymoon
I get assigned, and we both move.
But I'm ready to ask the question now. I'm confident it will work out for the best.
XXL
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From: N. Florida - The "No 4x4
"But I'm ready to ask the question now. I'm confident it will work out for the best."
!!! YEA !!!!!
. . but whatever you do; DO NOT invite us to the wedding.
You will scare the poor girl plum to death.
!!! YEA !!!!!
. . but whatever you do; DO NOT invite us to the wedding.
You will scare the poor girl plum to death.
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O-man……I am in trouble now.
How in the world am I supposed to lie on a couch and explain you to a shrink?
Come to think of it....I can’t even explain myself.
Wonder if this is why I constantly have a feeling of …………….duh
I was thinking of you and I singing at their wedding,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
How in the world am I supposed to lie on a couch and explain you to a shrink?
Come to think of it....I can’t even explain myself.
Wonder if this is why I constantly have a feeling of …………….duh
I was thinking of you and I singing at their wedding,,,,,,,,,,,,,,