Tough one. Don't ask a member of the wedding party, now you're just putting them in an uncomfortable situation they don't need. There has to be a tactful way to reply to the invitation that lets them know YOU know you're not invited, giving them a chance to reply to you, " what do you mean you're not coming to the reception? You didn't think you weren't invited, did you?" If they don't reply with something like that, then you know for sure you were invited only to the ceremony. Let me think about this one.

 

how about in-reverse, was invited to the reception but not the wedding. it was politely stated that the wedding was a private family thing, but come to find out at the second reception that the first reception had more than just the family; a whole lot more. the wedding, i found out was a lot more than just family too.

 

Good reading here , guys. I dont think it was a concern for money being spent, I have been friends with the brides father for 16 years , so he knows I am not rich , but he also knows that a wedding gift wouldnt strain me financially. I think the TAZ may have hit on something here tho, thinking back here ....

Whoa, now that I think back on it, the father of the bride was over at our house about 8 months ago, and I mentioned that we all should go out together and dine soon. He and I agreed for the following weekend to go out. It worked out though, that about 2 hours before showtime, I got hit with a stomach virus from hades. My wife called him for me, and cancelled our going out that evening, with he and his wife....

Now that I recall, time passed quickly after that, I got in to other things, I started a renovation project here at home, been working on my truck, my bro -in - law passed away, personal illnesses, on and on ... Short answer is , I never called him back and set another dinner date for us all. Wow, NOT good . I guess he feels slighted and that it was rude and inconsiderate on my part for not rescheduling dinner... and I see now it was .

Heck, doesnt my gray hair factor fit in this scene anywhere ?? I cant remember things like I used too, I believe my hard drive upstairs is full and my RAM is overloaded . I just told my wife about this post , and she said we are going to the ceremony anyway , because we both think the world of the bride, Daddy will just have to get over it, I cant undo what I've done ,