hey,
I didint really know who else to ask and figured id get the widest field of oppinions on this site, so here goes: today was our practice for graduation tomorrow (high school) and my girlfriend comes up all crying and stuff (we have been going out for just under 2 years) and tells me her step mom is trying to talk her into breaking up with me because i am going to a 2 year technical program (john deere Agricultural technicians) and she is going to a 4 year college (wsu). her reasoning is that we wont have anything to talk about since we will have different educations. what should I do? i dont particularly want to dealw ith this right now, or ever. i am considering just breaking uop with her to appease her step mom and her dad since they are paying for her college. i dont want to do anythihng to screw it up for her. what do you guys think? thanks.

 

IMHO,
Do what YOU feel is the right thing to do.

Don't do it for someone who can't seem to mind their own business.

This kind of thing usually happens because the person is a control freak.(Step-Mother)

She needs to have things/something go her way.

She also sounds narrow-minded.

But know this:

It is better to make mistakes on YOUR OWN for your OWN reasons than to do things because of someone else.

Like everything else in this world,
"If it was meant to be, It was meant to be"

This is something that should only be decided between you & this girl.

I don't know how long this woman has been her step-mother but her father should feel confident in his daughter's choices/decisions..... since it is his daughter.

 

I think you will find that being at different colleges will prove to be too hard to stay together.You both will be going to parties and meeting others ect..

I would just go to your different schools and see if you still feel the same about each other when you are through. If you have been seeing her for 2 years then you have never been a single guy and I believe everyone needs to live the single life for a little while.

Besides you dont need the hassle of wondering what she is doing, why isnt she home when you call, worrying about her going to parties and meeting others...because it WILL happen.

I wouldn't break up ....just let it fade out, then there are no burned bridges if you should ever pick it up again when you are through with school.

 

At your age 1) I wouldn't worry too much about it. 2) You might let it cool down and quiet down. 3) It will probably cool down anyway naturally. 4) "Love" at this age is pretty temporary and you are quite likely to go thru several more women before you find "the one". 5) If you really do love each other, it will work thru the problem and grow stronger, so Items 1, 2, 3, 4 will take care of themselves.

At your age, mostly what you got is "hot pants". Later on when you are mature like most of us, you get "fry pan head".

Good Luck, this is just one of the little speed bumps in life's road. The big ones are whoppers and you will have a lot to learn first.

Jim Henderson, what's that ringing in my ears? Oh a #12 skillet.

 

You should agree to stay in touch while at school but agree that your relationship is not exclusive. Also agree to not discuss or ask about the other's relationships while away. It's very difficult to keep a serious relationship while away for at least two years. When you get done with your 2 years you can decide together if you want to move to be near her or if you have moved on by that point. MHO

 

This may be true ... on the other hand, I met my future wife during my sophomore year in high school. When it came time to go to college, we thought that we were going to break up for sure. But, once we got to college and kind of got to used to the whole situation, we discovered that we still wanted to be with each other. We kept in touch over the phone, during spring break, and during the summer, and after graduation, we moved to the "big city". Eventually we got married.

So, you never know when you'll meet the "right person" -- don't automatically assume that a high school relationship won't work out.

 

Well, I have been in a serious long-term relationship for 2 years next month. Before we starter dating i was, well, had no problem with a one-night stand, but for the last two years I have not strayed AT ALL, not so much as a serious thought, I cannot sy without a thought becsuse that is impossable, you will look at another gal and go oh she pretty, but you gotta rmember what you got right now...anyways...
You must remember that no matter what the romantics say, love does take work, I have spent countless hours and 50,000 miles on my trucks in the past two years. This next year she will be living only 3 hours away instead of 6, in anotiher year or two she will move up here, if it is still working, which we hope it is, I shall be a married man at prolly......24, maybe 25 oldest, that is about 4 years away.
But you must also remember before doing this type of commitment that you do love her, it is not just 'hot-pants' Because if you date for another 2 years, you stay exclusive, never stray and it ends, you will probably regret it for the best times of your life. Do what feels right in your heart, but remember that at some point or another you will regret that you did not take the other path, just to see what it is like.


BTW me and my gal met my senior year, her freshman, we dated for a few months. I messed up, I fooled around, we broke up when I told her the next da, after a yer we got back together, been great ever since, very few complaints, and they are of no matter, regardles...and she just graduated this year.

 

Keep going out with her to make her parents mad.
But don't forget to keep your options open.

 

Hey man here is my Opinion...

If yea truely love her and have that special feeling everytime you see her..then try to talk to her and work it out...
Yes she is going away to college and seems like she will do well but also remember you need to get whats best for you too..
And let me tell you...I am a farmer and use John Deere and a few Case models and john deere Agricultural technicians are great. those guys know their stuff and make good money and are respected....
To be honest I wouldn't hurt my furture for her, unless you really really can't be away from her...
I think both of you could go and get your college then get back together...
True love allways waits man...
Me and my wife went to college together and we helped each other through it.....
Good Luck and follow your heart....

 

you might as well try to stay together if you really like her. Theres nothing wrong with at least giving it a shot.

 

if you two are truley in love with each other and plan to spend your life togther, you need to talk. mommy and daddy will always be there. my wife and i divorced after 7 years, remarried 5 years latter. its not easy at times but you will work things out. follow your heart

 

He said he is going to attend the John Deere U. . .

She will be the one meeting new guys, I doubt if his ratio will be anywhere close to hers.

 

ya know Alan has a point, if you leave her, you are not going to have many co-eds ya know........ ...............Granted, learning to work on a Deere might net you some of those coveted country gals

 

At least when your girlfriend is away at college her stepmom won't be around to say any more stupid things like that to her....

 

WAIT, WHOA, STOP.

Relationships are not based on differential calculus, they originate, reside in, and are maintained by the participants...

The two of you should think about how much you want to stay together, or not.

Weigh your own options. Base your decisions on your own thoughts and feeling for eachother - and not about geography, fields of endeavor, or what mommy and Daddy want.

They don't have to suffer the consequences, the TWO OF YOU do.

- And history is filled with both stories of those who have kept long distance relationships alive and well, and those also who regretted 'caving in' for the rest of their lives.

MY OWN bottom line is expressed best in two simple words:


NEVER QUIT


- Now you go, boy. You do what you believe is right.