Okay, so let me get this straight. The reason I am seeing Trans fluid in my oil is because my Transmission Vacuum Modulator Valve, seen as #8 in this diagram -----> Ford Aerostar Has ATF In The Intake has gone bad and now that vacuum line is sucking trans fluid into my engine?

Now I'm not 100% sure if there is oil in my trans fluid, I was just judging by my trans dipstick. I will have to take the trans pan off and inspect the fluid if I have to.

Now If I am seeing trans fluid leaking from the bottom where the bell housing and the back of the engine connect, what would be causing that leak?