Know what you mean, I have 3 girls and a stepson and with being in the Navy for over 20 years we have lived in many places in the states and overseas, but there all grown and have there own families, so I found a little place in Ok. myself...kinda laid back but still have a few "unwanted" around, now days there no escapeing that....hope you get what you want and maybe you'll be just up the road a ways.................