Wow! I thought my install went bad. See my "Front Main seal leaking" thread in this forum. I feel bad for the amount of pain you had to go through. I really think that the folks at BBK need to pay more attention to what they put in that box, beacuse I too had the problem with the 1/4 20s. i had to source my ovn bolts and use those instead. When I called them they said that this kit is for a few applications but they do not decipher what is used for which app in the instructions. Im glad you got everything figured out, I sure was glad when i put the thing back together for the third time and no more oil was leaking.
BTW My truck was also able to break the tries loose after installing this kit. Look at my sig for mods list.