I really hate to say this but after reading this it seems to me that you deserved that slap. So, maybe your dad was just having a bad day and jumps on you for something (whose dad didnt), instead of leaving well enough alone you continue to smart off to him and even after the first warnings of getting your *** whipped you continue to spew off at the mouth.
That would have been as far as I would have gotten with my dad. No I didnt grow up in an abusive household, but dammit I learned respect, and I feel that I am a better person for it. Sorry if I got this all wrong, but when my dad started bitching about me tearing stuff up and losing tools and what not, it was because I did. [bigdaddyII steps of soapbox]