Watching Someone Die............

fabmandelux · #1 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 01:34 PM

Sorry I haven't been around much this week guys. My mother-in-law died Monday at our home. We have been taking care of her for the last 7 years. She has had alzheimer's since 2002, and my brother and sister-in-law drained her of all her money and assets before they "dumped" her with my wife and I.

She had two small strokes in the last two months, and two weeks ago we were told that she now had cancer, and 3 months left to live. Two weeks later she passed away Monday morning at 0700 with my wife and myself at her bedside.

This has been particularly hard on my wife ( who's a saint) because she was the one that took care of my mother for the last 3 months of her life when she had lung cancer. My mom died 10 years ago on Christmas eve morning.

Christmas will never be the same again.......................We are going to my daughters home for Christmas, and hopefully the grand kids will add some joy to an otherwise rotten time of year.

I do hope and wish that all of you will have a merry Christmas. Please hug everyone around you this season, and remember that every day is a gift with the ones you love.
Don.

CapeF250 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 01:45 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss.She was so fortunate to have the care from you and your wife those last hard years of her life.
Thanks for the reminder that every day is a gift.It's too easy to take life for granted.

FORD RANGER · #3 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 03:20 PM

yeah don,
sorry to hear that don. beleive it or not don they can be held accountable for that!
not for your mom-in-laws death, but draining her of her assets.
thats called UNDO INFLUENCE. i served jury duty last august and thats what the case was about. similar. the woman had alzheimers/dementia. and they drained her of everything. sad. i lived with my mom when she had her first stroke and i never did that at all. i paid for everything bills,rent,etc. including my own bills....
i know personally how that goes. and at the time its really hard.

from me and erin a hug......

350steve · #4 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 04:10 PM

sorry to hear this.my condolence,hope all is well

Old93junk · #5 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 04:23 PM

Condolences to you and your family, Don................Hard time of year to deal with loss.

StevenhF100 · #6 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 05:04 PM

Sorry for your loss Don.

tiny1 · #7 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 05:23 PM

Don sorry to hear about your lose and my condolences to you, your wife and family. Loosing a loved one during the holiday season is very difficult and I know what it is like as that is when I lost my grandfather.

FORD RANGER · #8 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 05:23 PM

see don!!!!

fabmandelux · #9 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by FORD RANGER

yeah don,
sorry to hear that don. beleive it or not don they can be held accountable for that!
not for your mom-in-laws death, but draining her of her assets.
thats called UNDO INFLUENCE. i served jury duty last august and thats what the case was about. similar. the woman had alzheimers/dementia. and they drained her of everything. sad. i lived with my mom when she had her first stroke and i never did that at all. i paid for everything bills,rent,etc. including my own bills....
i know personally how that goes. and at the time its really hard.

from me and erin a hug......

Yep, we could raise all hell, looks like they converted about $150,000. Neither one of them has a pot to **** in, or a window to through it out of. So what would be the point?

My wife and I just want to close off this chapter and move on. We don't need the money and took care of her mom out of love, nothing else.

Her brother and sister both have miserable lives, and will most likely die a cold lonely death. They have both been told to never cross my path again. I promised my wife I would keep the piece until her mom was gone. I kept my word...............

PreciousOne · #10 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 07:17 PM

YOU are a good man, Don....a man of his word deserves nothing less than respect from all who know him, and I for one am honored to call you friend.....

I am sorry for the losses you have endured. holidays are awful in my home as well, losing my daddy before the holidays in 2004, losing my brother during the holidays just this past Jan 1, and now today we lost my ex-husbands youngest brother.....MY age and with small children at home......

please know that while I muddle through these difficult times, I will be keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers....

much love to you both~~

{{{{{hugs}}}}} Tammie~

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Medicmike63 · #11 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 08:34 PM

Wow, I am sorry for your loss. It is hard to lose someone you love but can be even tougher this time of year. Sounds like you did right by her in her time of need....I know that is of little consolation. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

donjamer · #12 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 09:57 PM

Don,

Sorry to hear about your loss.. Prayers go out to you and your family..

I am sure GOD is looking down on you and your wife and saying "well done"..

Every family has the parasite relatives who will get theirs in the end..

customcab66 · #13 (**permalink**) 12-23-2009, 10:47 PM

sorry to hear about your loss don hope things will be ok

blisstruck · #14 (**permalink**) 12-24-2009, 10:10 AM

I wish you the best for the future. my condolences in this difficult time. I think it is wise to not expose yourself to people that bring you down family or not.

bertha66 · #15 (**permalink**) 12-24-2009, 12:02 PM

Sorry for your Families loss Don, I understand.