Got it all back together, took less fluid than others have reported, about 6 quarts
When I first drove it it did the exact same flare and the OD light started flashing.
Checked the fluid level again, turned off the engine and restarted and works perfectly. Put it through 20 min of test driving, no light flashing, no flare, 1st gear manual engine breaking function restored. Hoping it was just the computer? re-setting? Anyway tried all types of accelerations, no problem
I have good pictures of the valve body before I removed it, if anyone needs them, I don't know how to post them or put arrows or notes, but I could email them. It would be good for any less experienced mechanics like me to watch for the position of that little rod. The pics in the tech article are a littel fuzzy but sure helped
BTW you need an inch pound torque wrench with the capability of going down to 60 in pds or less. I had one that started at 120, but the smaller ones are hard to find and very expensive
FWIW I bought some aluminum roof flashing to place around the pan and help direct the flow of fluid, seemed to help some, cost about $10 at Home Depot
By far worst part is removing the pan, I put in a drain plug, came in handy since I had to drop the pan twice. Still quite the bath. If you can let the valve body drip for a while before you take it off seems to help
I blew a whole day on it but mainly because of chasing parts and tools and my own stupidity not understanding what the little rod was supposed to do
Thousand thanks to all those who posted, especially FordBoy 52
Anyone want to buy a 50-150 pd torque wrench?