Do i need a lawyer? - Ford Truck Enthusiasts Forums



General NON-Automotive Conversation No Political, Sexual or Religious topics please.

Do i need a lawyer?

Reply
 
 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
  #1  
Old 05-16-2014, 01:59 PM
rhw's Avatar
rhw rhw is offline
Elder User
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: colorado
Posts: 638
rhw is gaining momentum as a positive member of FTE.
Do i need a lawyer?

Not sure about some legal proceedings here so I thought I would throw this out to the vast world of good advice that is the Ford truck forum!
A month ago my son (19 years old) was kidnapped by a whacko that was all drugged up and crazy- he managed to get away from him after 12 hours. The guy was arrested and is still in jail awaiting trial, my son is still all jumpy and can't stand being in a crowd, being around strangers or being alone (still trying to talk him into counciling) anyway, we got a call from the victims advocate yesterday who said he needs to go be interviewed by the defense attorney of the accused guy- she said I am welcome to sit in on it. Does this sound like normal procedure to you guys? My son has already given his statement at least 4 times to different detectives and I feel that the defense attorneys only reason for wanting to talk to him before the next court date would be to harass, badger and intimidate him into changing his story. Any thoughts or suggestions?
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 05-16-2014, 02:14 PM
helifixer's Avatar
helifixer helifixer is offline
Post Fiend
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Chino Valley, Arizona
Posts: 6,326
helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.helifixer has a spectacular reputation.
I would have a lawyer present if it were my son.
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 05-16-2014, 02:46 PM
donjamer's Avatar
donjamer donjamer is online now
FTE Chapter Leader
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: MA
Posts: 114,516
donjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputationdonjamer has a superb reputation
Quote:
Originally Posted by helifixer View Post
I would have a lawyer present if it were my son.
I second that, but he may not be required to attend...

A lawyer would be able to know if he does..
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 05-16-2014, 02:49 PM
75Three90's Avatar
75Three90 75Three90 is offline
Postmaster
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Santa Fe Tx
Posts: 3,401
75Three90 has a great reputation on FTE.75Three90 has a great reputation on FTE.75Three90 has a great reputation on FTE.75Three90 has a great reputation on FTE.
Yes get a lawyer.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 05-16-2014, 03:19 PM
mecdac's Avatar
mecdac mecdac is online now
If it flies, it dies
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: In the field...
Posts: 7,338
mecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputationmecdac has a superb reputation
If you ever have to ask..."Do I need a lawyer?" You need a lawyer.
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 05-16-2014, 05:58 PM
rhw's Avatar
rhw rhw is offline
Elder User
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: colorado
Posts: 638
rhw is gaining momentum as a positive member of FTE.
Thanks for all the input- I called around and it turns out my son had it wrong- its the DA office for the prosecution that wants to talk to him. They went on to say that the defense might contact us but that we are not required to talk to them, and if we do that we can have someone from the DA's office present.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 05-16-2014, 07:26 PM
slimbo13's Avatar
slimbo13 slimbo13 is offline
Post Fiend
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: greater cleveland
Posts: 11,053
slimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputation
i wish you and son all the best
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 05-16-2014, 08:03 PM
Action4478 Action4478 is offline
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 10,448
Action4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputationAction4478 has a superb reputation
I'm Glad its the DA . He has
no obligation to talk to the defense ..
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 05-17-2014, 06:43 AM
tseekins's Avatar
tseekins tseekins is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Maine, Virginia
Posts: 25,149
tseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputationtseekins has a superb reputation
That turned out better than when you originally posted.

Your son is suffering from PTSD and getting him in to talk to someone is so vitally important right now. His life has been forever changed but a good doc can give him the coping skills he needs.

Best of luck to and your son.
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 05-17-2014, 11:22 PM
rhw's Avatar
rhw rhw is offline
Elder User
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: colorado
Posts: 638
rhw is gaining momentum as a positive member of FTE.
Thanks for all you good thoughts and advice- yeah I agree about the ptsd - he quit his job the day after it happened - he worked the night shift at a 7-11 by himself and couldn't make himself go back- he was kidnapped from the parking lot there after his shift one night. He said he didn't even want to go for a hair cut yesterday because he wasn't alright with a stranger standing behind him to cut his hair! Pretty bad - hope it gets better with some counciling.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 05-18-2014, 08:52 AM
JWA's Avatar
JWA JWA is offline
Post Fiend
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Reynoldsburg, Ohio
Posts: 10,206
JWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputation
I don't mean to inject any bit of negativity or insensitivity here but the thought "hope its better with counseling........" needs a bit of tweaking to better serve this unfortunate young man.

IMHO too often the word "hope" is one of the weakest words in English--to me it seems its easier to relinquish our own ability to positively effect an outcome, "hoping" it gets better without any action on our part. I believe if we don't actively get in, dig deep and exert our maximum effort, that we rely only on "hope" we're not likely to be satisfied with ourselves, wishing we'd done more at the time.

I completely understand your son's hesitation and that can be worked through with counseling. A good counselor will encourage him to re-emerge into the living word, understand and recognize his anxieties as well as giving him the mental tools to deal with them on his own. I'm optimistic he'll be better in time with help and support along with a trained pro in this sort of thing.

Sorry if I got off track or this offends---its certainly not intended that way. In fact I soooooooo "hope" not!

Speedy recovery to your son RHW!
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 05-18-2014, 01:53 PM
slimbo13's Avatar
slimbo13 slimbo13 is offline
Post Fiend
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: greater cleveland
Posts: 11,053
slimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputationslimbo13 has a superb reputation
how much i hoped for in my day
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 05-19-2014, 12:26 PM
monckywrench monckywrench is offline
Posting Guru
 
Join Date: Apr 2001
Posts: 2,119
monckywrench is a splendid one to beholdmonckywrench is a splendid one to beholdmonckywrench is a splendid one to beholdmonckywrench is a splendid one to beholdmonckywrench is a splendid one to beholdmonckywrench is a splendid one to beholdmonckywrench is a splendid one to behold
Document the PTSD immediately for evidence of victim impact during sentencing and for any potential lawsuits as there is every reason to clean out the wacko of any current and future assets.

Get complete wacko documentation and after the trial consider plastering his pic and info in appropriate places on the internet so he will be driven away from the local community. Get GOOD pictures of wacko by having a third party take them as wacko enters or leaves court.

Avoiding areas with large hostile demographic (I didn't define those so no one has the slightest business taking offense) populations will remain a good idea, as may seeking a career (perhaps the military) which instills confidence in stressful situations and gets him far away from trigger hoods. Self-defense training such as combat martial arts could be another way to focus and improve personal power, for after all the solution to crime is a dead perp on the scene.

The way to master fear is to master yourself, and self-mastery has no downside.
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 05-20-2014, 07:45 AM
JWA's Avatar
JWA JWA is offline
Post Fiend
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Reynoldsburg, Ohio
Posts: 10,206
JWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputationJWA has a superb reputation
Quote:
Originally Posted by monckywrench View Post

The way to master fear is to master yourself, and self-mastery has no downside.
What a great idea or thought for all of us to carry each day---wonderful idea!
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 05-21-2014, 05:43 PM
flainn's Avatar
flainn flainn is offline
Posting Guru
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Los Lunas, NM
Posts: 1,166
flainn has a very good reputation on FTE.flainn has a very good reputation on FTE.flainn has a very good reputation on FTE.
Quote:
Originally Posted by mecdac View Post
If you ever have to ask..."Do I need a lawyer?" You need a lawyer.
That's exactly what I came here to say. I'm married to one.
Reply With Quote
 
 
Reply

Related Topics
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Success at last fatfenders56 1948 - 1956 F1, F100 & Larger F-Series Trucks 7 01-13-2016 06:59 PM


Go Back   Ford Truck Enthusiasts Forums >

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 02:52 PM.


This forum is owned and operated by Internet Brands, Inc., a Delaware corporation. It is not authorized or endorsed by the Ford Motor Company and is not affiliated with the Ford Motor Company or its related companies in any way. FordŽ is a registered trademark of the Ford Motor Company.