We are headed to Ruby to say final goodbyes to my dad. Hes been there since tuesday. Hes basically comatose at this point and getting worse. We along with the doctors have decided its time to let him rest. At some point today we will be taking him off the vent. I know ive told a few of you about how hes been the last few years. I consider you guys part of my family and i just wanted to let everyone know. Dave S. and i think Joe have my number if anyone wants to reach me.
Today when i got to the hospital he was alert and trying his best to talk but also wearing himself out while he was at it. As of around 7 this evening he was back to the same state he was in llast night. I believe this was his calm before the storm. Only the next 18-24 hrs will tell.
As for his family after this is all over i will be cutting ties with 95% of them. The attitude and actions are far more childish and uncalled for then anyone can imagine. My mother has recieved threats over the phone and been shut out by them. As of now i may be looking into some legal assistance and also someone to be at the funeral home when he does pass to keep things inline. I have enough on my plate that i shouldnt have to worry about a bunch of grown adults that decide they need to act like infants. He will be laid to rest in Webster Co. when all is said and done.
We have known for a long time now that he is at peace with his soul and me and him talked and he knows that i am comfortable with him leaving me. I know hes done all he can to raise me right and im tired of seeing him suffer. I can only hope that he goes during the night and that we are not faced with the decision of taking him off the vent.
Good luck man. I hate family that does that kind of ****. had it happen more than once in my family. like i said, keep your head up dave, you know you guys are doing whats right for your father. selfishness makes idiots believe they know what is best and right. truth is, they know nothing, and generally need to stay the hell back and leave the decision making alone.
I've never met you in person dave, but i am sorry you have to deal with this in this way. what should be a time of reconciliation and saying amens to your father has turned into a time of tiring bickering and anger over nonsensical issues. family that will kick a person in a time like this is family that isn't needed anymore. cut those loses, they pale in comparison to your true loss at hand. i hope your father goes quick and peaceful if he does go, and i mean that in the kindest way possible dave. no one should have to suffer once they have made peace with meeting their maker.
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